Sometimes, it takes only one shocking revelation or unpleasant situation to make us reconsider a significant life step that we’ve taken. Sadly, this happened to our reader, Lana, on her wedding night. After discovering what her new groom wanted to do on their special evening, Lana became furious and decided to seek advice.
Hi Lana! Thanks for sharing your story with us. We’ve prepared a few tips for you that we think might be able to help you.
Embrace the moment and practice empathy.
Try to see the situation from your groom’s perspective and empathize with his desire to reconnect with his long-lost friend. While his decision may have hurt you initially, recognize that his intentions were likely not to cause harm, but to seize a fleeting opportunity to spend time with someone dear to him.
Take this moment to embrace the love and joy surrounding your marriage, and choose to forgive and move forward together.
Share your feelings calmly.
Lana, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts before addressing the situation. Instead of immediately lashing out, express your feelings to your groom in a calm and composed manner.
Explain to him how you were looking forward to spending your first night together as a married couple and how his actions made you feel neglected.
Create a memorable alternative.
Rather than dwelling on what could have been, seize the opportunity to create a unique and memorable experience for yourselves.
Since your groom wanted to spend time with his friend, suggest a creative compromise that still allows you to celebrate your marriage in a special way. Perhaps now as newlyweds, you could arrange a late-night picnic under the stars in a secluded spot, or book a couples’ massage at the hotel spa.
By thinking outside the box and crafting an alternative plan, you can make up to what happened on your wedding night and turn it into a cherished memory for both of you.
Clearly express your expectations.
It’s important to establish boundaries and expectations within your marriage, especially when it comes to balancing individual friendships and quality time as a couple.
Use this situation as an opportunity to have an open and honest discussion about your respective needs and priorities. Together, set clear limits for future scenarios where unexpected reunions or events may arise.
By proactively addressing potential conflicts and finding mutually agreeable solutions, you can strengthen the foundation of your relationship and prevent similar misunderstandings in the future.
Navigating the journey of newlywed life can pose its challenges, especially when faced with significant life-altering decisions. Take for instance Stacy, a 24-year-old woman and recent bride, who finds herself grappling with such a scenario. Despite her in-laws’ generous offer to purchase a house for them, Stacy hesitates, while her husband views it as an opportunity worth considering. Delve deeper into her story by reading more here.
I Am Just a Straight, Happily Married Guy Who Loves Wearing High Heels and Skirts as My Daily Wardrobe
High heels were first made for men and they started wearing them back in the 10th century, historians say. In our era, some men have gone back to wearing high heels, and heels on men have even worked their way into pop-culture. Recently, a 61-year-old engineer from Germany, Mark Bryan, started wearing high heels with skirts to his office and as his normal everyday outfits. His looks give people a push to ditch stereotypes and to never be afraid to wear whatever they want.
Here at Bright Side, we did love the looks that Mark shows off on his page, and we’d love for you to find out more about this man and his story.
Heels and skirts are more than just fashion attributes for this man.
Mark Bryan, a robotics engineer and a father-of-3, is an ordinary man at first glance. He’s normally busy with his work and family duties. But recently, he’s created a stir on the internet and created a following of about 200,000 on Instagram by sharing his exquisite looks, which are far from the ordinary “dad stuff.”
He started to radically change his wardrobe habits 4 years ago. His daily outfits now consist of red pumps, plaid miniskirts, and suede boots, which Bryan combines with midi and mini pencil skirts. While sharing his daily looks, he speaks out about how his clothing preferences are just as normal as anything else that he does.
His outfits make him feel empowered and more confident.
He prefers skirts to dresses, because, as he says, skirts allow him to combine looks and make them masculine-looking above the waist and neutrally-gendered below the waist. To him, it’s all about clothes having no gender. He said that with ordinary “male” trousers, people don’t really have many options for outfit variety, but with skirts, there are a wide range of colors and styles, and this is what makes him feel good about himself when wearing his outfits.
His wife and kids share his views and mission.
When he first spoke to his children about his outfits, he tried to explain to them that there’s nothing sexual in his way of building up his daily wardrobe and that it’s not about their dad being gay. His daughter is now one of his most devoted fans and she dreams of being able to borrow some pairs of her dad’s shoes.
His wife has always been supportive and she’s even helped him choose his outfits. As he says, his current style is inspired by Meghan Markle’s Rachel.
Mark has quickly learned how to deal with the public response.
He has experienced a lot of harsh comments and negativity about his fashion experiments. However, a lot of men at work and in public places confess that Mark is a normal guy, who’s able to carry on a really manly conversation and who acts masculine. If people start asking him about his sexuality, he always asks them if they’d be this interested in it if he wore pants. Though these questions can make him short-tempered, in the long run, he confesses that people around don’t really care that much about other people’s outfits.
Do you have favorite outfits that you would wear no matter what other people think or say?
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