There are so many things in the world that we may admire or even get inspired by, but there’s one main thing we may want to fall in love with before we start noticing the beauty of other things. It’s our own reflection in the mirror. Among all the numerous recipes for conjuring up self-love within ourselves, psychologists advise us to never compare ourselves to others and stop caring about other people’s opinions. Actress and producer Lena Dunham knows a lot about cultivating love for her own body despite all the criticism she faced, and she happily shares her journey with us all.
Lena Dunham doesn’t accept the term “body positivity,” and here’s why.
Actress and writer Lena Dunham has recently added another string to her bow and collaborated with the brand 11 Honoré to create a plus-size clothing collection. But the very term “plus size” frustrates Lena, and so is the term “body positivity.” In one of her Instagram posts, she explains that she feels more “body tolerant” than “body positive.”
In her interview, Dunham said, “The thing that’s complicated about the body-positive movement is it can be for the privileged few who have a body that looks the way people want to feel positive. We want curvy bodies that look like Kim Kardashian has been up-sized slightly. We want big beautiful butts and big beautiful breasts and no cellulite and faces that look like you could smack them onto thin women.”
Dunham has a very special relationship with her own body.
Dunhams path to self-love started with a decade-long journey with endometriosis. Since she started her own fight against it, she has been candidly sharing how it influenced both her emotional health and her relationship with her own body image. In her Instagram post, she emotionally described how she fluctuated between loving her body and the opposite.
She wrote, “Ya know when you’re home alone, and you realize you’d be happier in a hot lil’ onesie than your ketchup and cat food stained pajamas? And it’s not about a boy or a photo shoot or a weight loss before-and-after, it’s just for the feeling of glee you get from dressing your one and only corporeal form in pleasing fabrics, the unique pleasure of admiring the twists and turns of the body that loves the heck out of you even when you don’t love it.”
Dunham is powerfully addressing all people who come to her page with criticism.
In 2021, Dunham tied the knot with musician Luis Felber. It was such a darling event for her that she wore 3 wedding dresses to marry her love and shared the photos on her Instagram. However, she started getting some “gnarly” comments in her feed from people who commented on her body and appearance. The actress didn’t hesitate for a minute to address them with a powerful message.
She wrote, “One narrative I take issue with, largely because it’s a story I don’t want other women, other people, to get lodged in their heads, is that I should somehow be criticized because my body has changed since I was last on television. […] But lastly, when will we learn to stop equating thinness with health/happiness?”
Dunham’s powerful message can be echoed in the hearts of many.
For all people who have ever hesitated about embracing their body image, Dunham has some simple yet wise advice. She says, “Of course weight loss can be the result of positive change in habits, but guess what? So can weight gain. The pics I’m being compared to are from when I was with an undiagnosed illness. In the last 4 years, I’ve begun my life as someone who aspires toward health and not just achievement.
These changes have allowed me to be the kind of sister/friend/daughter that I want to be and yes — meet my husband (who, by the way, doesn’t recognize me in those old photos because he sees how dimmed my light was). I say this for any other person whose appearance has been changed with time, illness, or circumstance — it’s okay to live in your present body without treating it as transitional. I am, and I’m really enjoying it. Love you all.”
Do you find Lena Dunham’s example inspiring? What do you love the most about your appearance?
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My Date Deceived Me Into Watching His Children While He Dated Someone Else – He’ll Always Remember My Memorable Retribution
Vanessa believed her romantic prospects were improving when Mike invited her to connect with his children. However, an unexpected message during their meal unveiled a shocking deception. Vanessa learns that Mike has dashed off to enjoy a date with another woman, leaving her to care for his children. Determined to respond, Vanessa crafts a memorable retaliation.
I was nestled on my snug sofa, reflecting on Mike.
Our relationship had begun just weeks earlier, and it was flourishing. Mike’s allure and kindness made me feel genuinely cherished—a sensation I hadn’t experienced in quite some time.
His call that day was filled with enthusiasm. “Vanessa, I’d be delighted if you visited this weekend to meet my children and spend time together,” he proposed.
A flutter of excitement passed through me at the prospect of meeting his children, signaling a serious step in our burgeoning relationship.
Grinning, I responded, “I’d be happy to, Mike. It’s touching that you’d like me to meet them.”
As I sat, emotions of anticipation and apprehension mingled within me. This was my first experience dating someone with children, and I was eager to make a positive impression. Mike’s children were quite young, aged seven and five.
He framed the visit as a chance for “bonding,” underscoring its significance.
Mike and I had connected through shared friends and clicked instantly. At 37, his maturity and kindness put me at ease, while I, at 35, felt we were both seeking something sincere.
I reached for my phone to call my best friend, Sarah. “Sarah, you won’t believe it! Mike has asked me over to meet his children this weekend!”
Sarah’s excitement was palpable. “That’s wonderful, Vanessa! It really means a lot. He must think highly of you.”
“I believe so,” I agreed, a warmth spreading within me. “But I’m a bit anxious. What if they don’t take to me?”
“Just be natural,” Sarah counseled. “You’re wonderful with children, and they’ll recognize that. Everything will be alright.”
Reassured by Sarah’s words, I felt a boost of confidence. Mike appreciated me for who I was, and hopefully, his children would as well.
I spent the evening contemplating the weekend ahead, excited about deepening my relationship with Mike and his kids, ready for whatever the future held.
Arriving at Mike’s, I admired the effort he had put into preparing dinner.
The dining room was invitingly arranged, with a beautifully set table and soft lighting that added a warm ambiance.
Mike welcomed me with a smile, and I could see Lily and Ben shyly peeking from behind him. “Hi, Vanessa! Come on in. I’d like you to meet Lily and Ben,” he introduced.
I waved at the children, smiling. “Hello, Lily. Hello, Ben. It’s wonderful to meet you!”
The children giggled, and Lily responded timidly. We gathered at the table, and although I was a bit nervous, the atmosphere quickly became comfortable.
The aroma of delicious food filled the air, and the children were endearing. As we dined, our conversation was lively and laughter-filled, easing any initial tension.
Midway through the meal, Mike’s phone interrupted us.
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