Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried for years to have a baby, using every method they could think of. They eventually accepted that they might only ever be an aunt and uncle. Then, one day, they got a text that changed their lives completely.
The couple had been trying to get pregnant since they got married in January 2018, but when it didn’t happen on its own, they tried everything else.
“We used ovulation tests, took prenatal vitamins, tracked cycles with apps, and used fertility monitors,” the Houston mom told Love What Matters.
“We even tried advice from friends, family, and strangers. For 14 months, we tried, prayed, and waited. Month after month, it was always a negative pregnancy test. It seemed like we might need help to conceive, so we even talked to doctors about it.”
Doctors didn’t offer much help to the couple. They mostly told Sadie to lose weight to improve her chances of getting pregnant. With no other advice, she had gastric surgery and lost 28 pounds.
Sadie’s OBGYN was excited about the weight loss and praised her for it.
“She told me that if I wasn’t pregnant within six months, she would refer me to a fertility specialist because she couldn’t prescribe fertility medication herself,” Sadie said. “I was thrilled! We finally got a positive step forward, even if it wasn’t immediate. We were excited about the progress.”
Unfortunately, the couple didn’t get pregnant after Sadie lost the weight, and they felt like they were back where they started.
“I always felt like I was meant to be a mother,” Sadie said. “Even though my surgeon warned me that I’d be very fertile after the surgery, I still wasn’t getting pregnant. So, we gave up and accepted that we might just be aunt and uncle to our nieces and godparents to our goddaughters.”
Just when the couple had decided to stop trying to have a baby, Sadie got a text from a friend asking if they would think about fostering a baby from a couple she knew.
At first, the couple was hesitant because they were told by a caseworker to take care of the baby while the birth mom was getting treatment. They worried they might get too attached. But then, the situation changed.
“The birth mom has decided she wants you to adopt the baby instead,” the caseworker said.
Sadie remembered saying, “‘Holy crap!!’ out loud when she found out she was going to be a mom.
“We went from having no kids to possibly fostering one, to suddenly being told, ‘You’re going to be parents!’ I was still in shock as I listened to the caseworker. I hung up and called my husband, shouting, ‘Babe!! They want us to adopt the baby! We’re going to be parents!’ He said, ‘Wait! REALLY?! I thought they just wanted us to foster him!’ I told him, ‘Nope! They want us to be his mom and dad.’”
The couple spent the weekend trying to take in the shocking news and getting ready, just in case the birth mom changed her mind.
By Monday, they were not only told that the birth mom still wanted them to adopt the baby, but she also wanted to do an independent adoption and was ready to sign the papers that day.
Their baby boy was born at just 33 weeks, which is seven weeks early. He weighed 4 lbs. 5 oz. “He was so tiny, he literally fit in one of my husband’s hands,” Sadie wrote.
“He was wrapped in a white blanket with pink and blue stripes,” Sadie said. “He had a small tube coming out of his nose because he couldn’t eat on his own since he was born early. But he was so cute!!!”
The couple shared their news on social media and were encouraged to create a registry. They listed 72 items, and within just three days, 55 of them were already bought for them.
Ezra Lee’s adoption was finalized in October 2020, and the couple had adorable family photos taken, all wearing t-shirts that said, “Families don’t have to match.”
In 2021, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin girls, Journee and Destinee, through embryo donation. True to their family motto, “Families don’t have to match,” the Black couple now has three white children – a boy and two girls.
For anyone who might judge their beautiful family, they have just one response: their family is built on the strongest foundation ever – love.
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I Unintentionally Heard My Husband Speaking About Me to a Store Clerk in a Changing Room
Viola’s world came crashing down when she inadvertently overheard a conversation that revealed more about her husband, Ross, than she could have imagined. Her discovery led to a powerful, public declaration at their 15th anniversary celebration, where she exposed his betrayal and declared their marriage over, shocking their friends and family.
Ross and Viola’s marriage was perceived by many as ideal. They had weathered various storms together and built a life that seemed enviable on the outside. In light of their upcoming 15th anniversary, Viola proposed, “Ross, let’s throw a big party for our 15th wedding anniversary!” Ross responded affirmatively with a warm smile, showing no signs of the discord that lay beneath.
Having recently welcomed their third child, their lives were full and seemingly content. In preparation for the celebration, Viola decided to shop for a new dress to mark the occasion, telling her children, “Mommy needs a pretty dress for the party,” as she left for her favorite boutique.
At the boutique, amidst a selection of outfits, Viola’s excitement turned to shock as she recognized Ross’s voice in a nearby dressing room. His words pierced through the curtain, “My wife is…a shrinking violet, you know. She’d never wear a dress like this! Plus, she’d need two or three times a bigger size because of her fat belly, but you…you look perfect in it, baby!” The realization that Ross was not only mocking her appearance but also engaging flirtatiously with another woman left Viola stunned and heartbroken.
Reeling from the discovery, Viola managed to compose herself enough to leave the boutique without confronting Ross immediately, knowing she needed more evidence. At home, Ross’s demeanor was unchanged, playful and caring with their children, making it even harder for Viola to reconcile the man she heard with the man she saw.
“How was shopping?” Ross asked innocently upon her return. “It was fine,” Viola responded, masking her turmoil. “Didn’t find anything I liked, though.” Ross reassured her casually, oblivious to the storm brewing within her.
That evening, after ensuring their children were asleep, Viola’s need for answers led her to snoop through Ross’s phone. Her suspicions were confirmed when she found flirty messages with someone named Jenna. The discovery compelled Viola to hire a private investigator, desperate to uncover the full extent of Ross’s infidelity.
As she waited for the results, Ross noticed her distant demeanor, asking if she was okay. Viola lied, attributing her mood to exhaustion from caring for their baby. Ross offered his support, unaware of the investigation unfolding.
The investigator eventually provided Viola with conclusive evidence of Ross’s affair, including pictures and texts shared over months. Armed with this information, Viola decided to confront Ross publicly at their anniversary party.
On the day of the party, Viola stayed out of sight until Ross introduced her to their guests. As she approached, Ross complimented her, unaware of the storm about to break. “Honey, you look amazing. What did you do? I thought you were a—” he started to say, but Viola cut him off sharply, “A shrinking violet?” The room fell silent as Ross realized that his deception was uncovered.
Viola took this moment to address their friends and family gathered, revealing the painful truth. “I overheard Ross telling a saleswoman that I am a shrinking violet and overweight. It broke my heart, but it also made me realize I deserve better. So, I’ve decided to end our marriage. I deserve someone who loves and respects me for who I am,” she declared, her voice filled with resolve.
The guests reacted with a mixture of shock and support, some applauding Viola’s courage. Ross, unable to respond, stood frozen as Viola continued, “Unfortunately, I can’t meet my husband’s requirements for a wife. He said I need two or three times a bigger size because of my fat belly. Well, Ross, I’m done trying to fit your mold.”
With those final words, Viola thanked everyone and left the party, feeling a mixture of relief and empowerment. She walked out into the cool evening, her head held high, ready to begin a new chapter in her life free from deception and disrespect.
Viola’s bravery in confronting her husband publicly marked a turning point in her life. As she drove away, her phone lit up with messages of support from friends, reinforcing her decision to stand up for herself and seek happiness elsewhere. “Thank you. I needed to do this for me. It’s time for a fresh start,” she texted back, looking forward to a future filled with self-respect and freedom.
This episode in Viola’s life was a profound declaration of her worth and a refusal to be diminished by anyone, especially her spouse. It highlighted the resilience and strength that come from facing painful truths and making tough decisions, serving as a testament to the empowerment that follows taking
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