Anne Hathaway reflects on her challenging journey to motherhood and the heartfelt influence her openness about her experience has had over the years.
Oscar-winning actress Anne Hathaway, who is a mother to sons Jonathan, 8, and Jack, 4, with her husband Adam Shulman, recently looked back on her challenging journey to motherhood. She shared how she faced a miscarriage while performing in the Off-Broadway play Grounded for nearly six weeks in 2015.
Reflecting on her experience, she told in a cover story published on March 25, «The first time it didn’t work out for me. I was doing a play and I had to give birth onstage every night.»
During that time, she felt that «it was too much to keep it in when I was onstage pretending everything was fine,» and chose to be honest about her struggles with her friends and family. «I had to keep it real otherwise.»
Later on, she extended this same openness to the public when announcing her pregnancy. She explained, «When it did go well for me, having been on the other side of it — where you have to have the grace to be happy for someone — I wanted to let my sisters know, ’You don’t have to always be graceful. I see you, and I’ve been you.’»
«It’s really hard to want something so much and to wonder if you’re doing something wrong,» she added. The Oscar winner further recalled her shock at learning how many pregnancies end in miscarriage. According to the Mayo Clinic, 10% to 20% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage, though the actual number is likely higher. She wished that this information was more widely disseminated.
Anne continued, «I thought, ’Where is this information? Why are we feeling so unnecessarily isolated?’ That’s where we take on damage. So I decided that I was going to talk about it.»
When Anne Hathaway announced her second pregnancy on Instagram in 2019, she accompanied it with a powerful caption.
«It’s not for a movie…» Hathaway wrote, referring to her baby bump. «All kidding aside, for everyone going through infertility and conception hell, please know it was not a straight line to either of my pregnancies. Sending you extra love.»
Reflecting on the impact of her candid post, she shared, «The thing that broke my heart, blew my mind, and gave me hope was that for three years after, almost daily, a woman came up to me in tears and I would just hold her, because she was carrying this (pain) around, and suddenly it wasn’t all hers anymore.»
Reflecting on her experience, she shared that given «the pain I felt while trying to get pregnant, it would’ve felt disingenuous to post something all the way happy when I know the story is much more nuanced than that for everyone.»
Recently another actress, Nicole Kidman, also shared her struggles having children.
My MIL’s ‘Innocent’ Gift Turned My Life Upside Down
When Linda’s mother-in-law gifted us an orchid for our anniversary, she never expected it to bloom into a saga of suspicion, secrets, and a staged scandal that taught them all a lesson in trust and privacy.
Let me set the scene: it’s me, my husband Mark, his mom Evelyn, and his brother Alex. We’re your average family, I guess, but things have been a bit tense lately.
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We just celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary. It was supposed to be a happy day, just me and Mark at home, reminiscing and enjoying each other’s company. But then Evelyn showed up with a gift that changed everything.
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She handed us this beautifully potted orchid, saying it was a rare species and a symbol of our growing love. Now, I know that sounds sweet and all, but with Evelyn, there’s always a catch. Our relationship has been… well, let’s just say complicated.
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I’m a housewife, and I love it, but Evelyn has never really approved of me not having a career. Mark works a lot, and sometimes I feel like Evelyn thinks I’m just lounging around at home all day. She’s the type to call me out of the blue or drop by unannounced, and it always feels like she’s checking up on me, making sure I’m not just wasting my life or her son’s time. So, her giving me this orchid out of the blue? It felt off, like she was up to something more than just a kind gesture.
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The orchid was gorgeous, no doubt about it. It’s taken a place of pride in our living room, and I can’t deny it’s added a certain elegance to the space. But every time I look at it, I can’t help but wonder about Evelyn’s real intentions. It’s like this beautiful plant has become a symbol of the tension between us.
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Mark thought I was reading too much into it, but I couldn’t shake the feeling. Ever since that orchid arrived, things have felt different. It was like there was an unspoken strain in the air, and I wasn’t sure how to deal with it. Evelyn’s past behavior didn’t help either. Her “drop-ins” and calls always made me feel like I was under surveillance, and now with this gift, it was like those feelings were magnified.
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I didn’t know, maybe I was overthinking it, but something about this whole situation just didn’t sit right with me.
The orchid has become more than just a decoration in our home. It was like it was watching us, symbolizing not just our marriage but the growing unease between Evelyn and me. Mark and I have been feeling this weird tension, and I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was off.
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Well, my instincts were right. The other day, while I was dusting around the living room, I noticed something odd about the orchid. There was a tiny, almost invisible, lens hidden among the flowers. I took a closer look, and my heart dropped. It was a camera lens. Evelyn had been spying on us all this time!
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I was in shock. I confronted Mark with the discovery, and he was as appalled as I was. We couldn’t believe that his mother would go to such lengths to invade our privacy. It felt like a betrayal, not just to me, but to our family.
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After the initial shock wore off, we started to think. We were angry, yes, but we also knew we had a chance to turn this around. Instead of confronting Evelyn right away, we came up with a plan to teach her a lesson about respect and boundaries.
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We decided to stage scenes in front of the camera, knowing Evelyn was watching. Mark’s brother, Alex, was in town, and he agreed to help us out. He’s always been a good sport and understood why we needed to do this. We started with harmless stuff, like pretending to argue over silly things or staging romantic dinners with exaggerated affection, just to see how Evelyn would react.
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But we knew we needed something big, a real showstopper, to make our point clear. So, we plotted a scene that would make Evelyn think she had caught us in a scandalous situation. We were going to make it look like I was having an affair with Alex. It sounds crazy, I know, but we were desperate to show her how invasive and wrong her spying was.
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The night of the dinner, everyone was there: Mark, me, Evelyn, Alex, and a few other relatives. The atmosphere was tense, at least for us, knowing what was about to unfold. Evelyn seemed unusually smug, which made my stomach churn, but I kept my cool.
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Halfway through the dinner, Evelyn couldn’t hold back her triumph any longer. She announced that she had something to show everyone. My heart raced as she connected her laptop to the TV, playing the video she had recorded through the orchid’s hidden camera.
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The footage started with me calling Alex, making it seem like we were planning a secret rendezvous while Mark was at work. Our conversation was ambiguous, hinting at something more, and then it showed Alex arriving at our house, and both of us disappearing out of the camera’s view.
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You could have heard a pin drop as the video played. Evelyn was practically gloating, thinking she had caught us in an affair. The looks of shock and disbelief on everyone’s faces were painful, but Mark and I held onto each other, ready for the grand finale.
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After the incriminating part ended, I stood up, my heart pounding. I calmly walked to the TV, flash drive in hand, and replaced Evelyn’s laptop with mine. I hit play, and the room watched the rest of the footage. There we were, Alex and I, standing next to the TV in the video, laughing and clearly setting up the scene, with a romantic comedy playing in the background to provide the love confessions heard in Evelyn’s video.
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Silence filled the room as everyone processed what they were seeing. I turned to Evelyn and said, “We knew about the camera. This was all staged to show you how it feels to have your privacy invaded.”
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Evelyn’s face went from triumphant to mortified in seconds. The realization of her actions and their repercussions hit her hard. She tried to stammer out an apology, but the damage was done. The family was in shock, not just at our staged act, but at the lengths Evelyn had gone to spy on us.
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After the video was shown, Evelyn was visibly shaken. She looked like she had been hit by a truck of reality. Before she left the gathering, she managed to apologize. Her words were few, but I could tell they were heavy with regret. She whispered a sorry to us, especially to Mark and me, acknowledging the breach of trust her actions had caused. It was a humbling moment for everyone.
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In the days that followed, there was an unspoken tension in the air. However, something unexpected happened; the incident opened up a new channel of communication within our family. Mark and I had long discussions about our boundaries, privacy, and how we want to move forward. We agreed that while what Evelyn did was unacceptable, it was a wake-up call for all of us to respect each other’s space and privacy.
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Evelyn reached out to us a few days later. She wanted to talk. It was a difficult conversation, full of awkward pauses and emotional apologies. But it was necessary. She admitted to her fear of losing her son and her misconceptions about me. It was clear that this incident, as painful as it was, sparked a significant change in her.
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As for the family dynamics, they have surprisingly improved. This ordeal, while initially causing a rift, eventually led to a stronger bond between us. We’ve had family meetings to clear the air and set new boundaries that everyone respects. It’s like we all grew from this experience, learning the importance of trust and privacy.
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Mark and I, in particular, have become a stronger unit. This situation tested our relationship, but we came out of it more united. We realized the importance of standing together, not just as a couple but as partners in everything that life throws our way.
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Evelyn has been more mindful of her actions. She’s learning to trust us and respect our space, and I can see a genuine effort on her part to mend our relationship. It’s a slow process, but it’s happening, and that’s what matters.
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In conclusion, what started as a suspicious gift turned into a lesson in boundaries, trust, and family dynamics for all of us. It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions, but I believe we’re heading towards a better understanding of each other.
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