Anne Hegerty, known from The Chase, shared that her biggest fear about dating is having a man invade her personal space.
The quizzer, who was diagnosed with autism at 45, opened up about her challenges, mentioning a time when she unplugged her phone to stop a boyfriend from contacting her.
At The Paul Strank Roofing Charity Gala in Kensington, London, she honestly said that she thinks she would make a terrible partner.
Anne, 66, said, “I really struggle with being close to others and having anyone else in the house.
“I think a lot of autistic people don’t get married or settle down.”
Anne explained, “I don’t even have pets because of this, and my ability to live with other people is getting smaller. I need a lot of alone time.
“I always feel like I need more space than anyone can give me. If I wanted a relationship, I could find one, but honestly, I don’t.”
She also mentioned that her longest relationship only lasted four months. Reflecting on that time, she said, “It only worked for those few months because I was in Manchester. I kind of set it up so it wouldn’t last.”
In the end, she wrote to him to end things. “I remember crying with relief and then crying with guilt,” she shared.
Anne felt overwhelmed during that relationship. “Sometimes, I unplugged the phone because he tried to call me every day. I just wanted it to be over.
“I’d sit there waiting for the phone to ring, thinking, ‘Don’t phone, don’t phone, don’t phone!’ Other times, to get over the waiting, I’d call him, but that made him think I wanted to talk. I really just wanted to end it. I didn’t want to talk to him or anyone!”
Anne joked that she hasn’t lacked offers from admirers who seem to like her “Mrs. Trunchbull” Governess outfit.
She said, “I’m sure some people are attracted to the whole look of The Governess. I think there are some who might be interested if they let me.”
Anne said, “I do meet attractive men, but I know it won’t work out. I feel like it’s not fair to them because I won’t treat them well.”
She added, “I always want more space than they can give me. If I wanted a relationship, I could find someone, but I don’t.”
She thinks it’s better not to date at all and enjoys having men as friends more than women. She recalled a quiz she attended in June, where a woman pointed out they were the only two women in the room, but Anne hadn’t even noticed because she was talking to her male friends.
Anne also shared that this is part of why she never had children, even though she is great with kids. “I did want children, but I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle it very well.”
About 20 years ago, two kids from her neighborhood used to come over. “We limited their visits to just one hour a day, but they always wanted to stay longer. They were wonderful kids, and we’re now friends on Facebook, but I couldn’t handle that for more than an hour.”
Anne takes her role as godmother to Mark “Beast” Labbett’s eight-year-old son, Lawrence, very seriously.
She said, “Lawrence’s birthday is at the end of November, so I usually send a birthday and Christmas present at the same time—but they are not the same gift. My parents had winter birthdays, and I knew they hated getting just one present for two celebrations.”
Anne joked that one of the gifts she gave Lawrence was a bit inappropriate—a toy crossbow. “So, weaponry,” she laughed. “But lately, I’ve been giving him Minecraft vouchers since he really loves that.”
She also mentioned that she has spent Christmas alone for the past 40 years. That’s why she’s especially happy to be playing the Fairy Godmother in this year’s panto, Cinderella, in Scarborough.
Anne, who was on I’m A Celebrity… Get Me Out Of Here in 2018, said, “Now that I’m in panto, I can say, ‘Sorry, I’m in Scarborough!’ and that’s my only day off.”
She sees it as a great day off. Even though many people invite her to spend Christmas with them, she prefers not to. “I don’t do Christmas dinner or a tree. When I was a kid, I just remember all the pine needles everywhere!”
Earlier this year, Anne took on another acting role, making a cameo as a neighbor in a film called Exorcising Barry, which is about a man obsessed with a demon.
Anne said that any chance of going to Hollywood is out of the question.
She explained, “America wouldn’t want me because I’m fat. I have a friend who went there for work, and even though she looks amazing, they told her she needed to lose weight. I’m fine with how I am, but they don’t like fat British actresses.”
Despite this, she has had great success in Britain. Talking about The Chase’s recent National Television Award win, she said, “I’m so happy. Bradley Walsh is amazing. It’s been 14 years, and I love it.”
She added, “Other kids used to sing in front of the mirror with a hairbrush. When I was younger, I practiced being interviewed for when I became famous. I don’t know why, but it’s always been my dream.”
3 Amazing Christmas Stories with Unexpected Twists
Imagine meeting your fiancé’s family for the first time at Christmas, only to find his ex-girlfriend as the guest of honor! This compilation of holiday stories features shocking twists and turns, including a surprise expensive gift, an unexpected Santa, and more.
These families went through some serious things during the festive season. Get ready to uncover what happens when a millionaire disguises himself to meet his in-laws or when a desperate mother tries to tell her kid some bad news on Christmas. Time to restore your faith in the holiday spirit!
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I Went to Meet My Fiancé’s Parents at Christmas, but His Ex Turned It Into a Nightmare
My fiancé, Brian, suggested we spend Christmas with his family. It was bound to happen eventually, considering how serious we were. Plus, I’d never met them before.
We had his family photos displayed at home, and they looked sweet enough, but if only I’d known what was waiting for me there!
As we drove to their house, I was dying of nerves. Brian’s family was old-fashioned, and he’d told me all about their “special traditions.” What he didn’t mention was that one of those traditions involved inviting his ex-girlfriend!
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Their house was HUGE, like a mansion. I knew they had money, but not like this.
I was already feeling intimidated, and then I met his mom, Cora. She was super elegant and put-together, and I felt like I stuck out like a sore thumb.
From the moment we arrived, I just tried to hold myself together. It was obvious I was the odd one out. Also, Cora had already made up her mind about me—or rather, about someone else. She was probably already adjusting the seams of my wedding dress to fit a certain glamorous brunette!
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But I didn’t know that until much later.
Dinner started out like an interrogation.
“So, Sara,” Cora asked, “what do you do?”
I told her I worked in marketing, trying to sound impressive.
“Marketing,” she repeated, making it sound like the most boring job in the world. I felt so self-conscious.
Later, I tried to win them over with my baking skills. I made this amazing pie, a family recipe that everyone always loved. But Cora took one bite and said, “Oh dear, are there nuts in this? I’m allergic to nuts.”
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Funny, because she didn’t even use an Epi-Pen or have any visible reaction. But anyway, I wanted to disappear!
And then, things got worse. Someone came to the door, and Cora introduced this “family friend” named Ashley. This girl was actually Brian’s ex-girlfriend. She was stunning, like straight out of a magazine, and she was all over my fiancé during dinner.
“Brian!” she exclaimed. “Remember that time we went hiking in the mountains? We had so much fun!”
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Meanwhile, Brian just stood there like a statue, completely captivated, while her fake giggles drilled into my ears.
I was seething. I couldn’t believe Cora had invited her, and I definitely couldn’t believe Brian was acting like this was perfectly normal. So, I did something totally impulsive.
I called my ex, Josh, and invited him over.
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When Josh arrived, things got interesting. I saw Brian’s face, but since inviting exes to Christmas was a “family tradition,” I shrugged at him.
Josh and I laughed, ate while telling old stories, and basically pretended to be having the best time, just to get back at Cora and Ashley for how they were treating me.
It definitely got under their skin, but I think the person most affected was my fiancé. He looked pretty jealous, which I have to admit, felt kind of satisfying. But ultimately, Brian did nothing. He let this all happen.
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At the end of the night, I was tired, and when Josh left, I couldn’t take it anymore. I went to the woman who was supposed to become my mother-in-law and said, “I never expected to be treated this way by my soon-to-be husband’s family. Honestly, I’d rather not join this family at all.”
Brian’s jaw slackened, and Ashley had a twinkle in her eye. But I walked out after those words with my head held high.
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The next few days were rough. I was filled with sadness and a little self-doubt. Had I overreacted? Was I being too sensitive?
Maybe Cora and Ashley didn’t do it on purpose. But just when I was spiraling, Brian showed up at my door. He apologized for his and his family’s behavior. He should’ve spoken out and told Ashley to back off or even leave.
I was so relieved that I wasn’t crazy!
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Something even more unexpected happened next. Cora arrived, followed by the rest of Brian’s family! They all apologized and said they had been wrong to invite Ashley and push her on Brian.
Cora even admitted that she’d always been protective of her son because of their family’s money. Ashley came from money too, so she was a safer bet.
After I forgave her, we ended up having a second Christmas celebration at my tiny apartment, and it was actually really nice.
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They Judged My Son for His Lack of Money, But I Had the Last Laugh
Hello! I’m Sam, and my son Will is this amazing kid, kind and loving. Being a single dad isn’t easy, and I definitely made some mistakes. I spoiled him, probably way too much.
I mean, I could afford it because I had made a fortune from an engine sealant I invented. But the downside was that all our money ended up attracting the wrong kind of people to Will.
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When Will decided to go to Yale, he came up with this plan to hide our wealth. He wanted to make real friends, not ones who just liked him for his money.
So, he dressed in scruffy clothes and pretended to be a poor scholarship student. It worked! He made great friends, and later, he met a wonderful girl named Eddy, short for Edwina. They quickly fell head over heels.
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Will proposed, and Eddy said yes. That Thanksgiving, she took him home to meet her parents, Marta and Farlow. He told me they were wealthy and wanted their daughter to marry someone rich, not a scruffy third-year science major.
They were polite to him but clearly disapproved of their relationship.
Still, Eddy insisted we spend Christmas weekend with them at their fancy beach house. But to keep our wealth a secret, we took a bus there, and I purposely dressed in my oldest, most worn-out clothes.
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When Eddy’s dad picked us up, he looked me up and down and practically sneered. He spent the whole ride bragging about his money and how important it was to him. I just smiled and nodded.
The next few days were pretty awful. They were constantly trying to subtly humiliate me, making snide comments about my clothes and implying that Will would never be able to provide Eddy with the lifestyle she was used to.
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I could tell that my future daughter-in-law was furious. At one point, she and her mother went to the kitchen. I went to the bathroom, and on my way back, I overheard their conversation.
She told her mother, “I’m going to marry Will, and Sam’s going to be family, so get used to it.”
Marta angrily retorted, “But darling, the man is a bum! Have you seen his clothes? He’s an embarrassment.”
Eddy shot back, “Believe me, Mom, you are much more of an embarrassment than Sam could ever be!”
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I have to admit, I was pretty proud that my son had found such a good woman. But I wasn’t sure about her parents.
On Christmas Eve, they gave Will and Eddy a brand-new Porsche as an early wedding present. They were so smug about it that I realized they thought they had one-upped me.
But I had a surprise of my own; one I had prepared earlier just because. I gave Eddy an envelope and said, “Will told me you two plan to move to New York after graduation. Finding a place to live in Manhattan isn’t easy, so I hope this helps…”
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Eddy opened the envelope and gasped. Inside was the deed to a brownstone in Tribeca!
Her parents were speechless. “But…but…but…” her dad stammered. “You’re POOR…The way you dress…You took the bus…”
“Well, Farlow,” I said gently. “I want my son to be loved and accepted for himself, not for the $570 million he will eventually inherit from me.”
That shut them up pretty quickly. After that, they couldn’t be nicer to me.
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Will and Eddy got married that next summer, and a few years later, they had a little girl. I even bought a house next door so I could be close to them.
I never liked Marta and Farlow, but I was polite to them because I knew Eddy. I knew that she made my son happy and cared for my granddaughter. That’s all that mattered.
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My Daughter Asked About Santa, and I Broke Down, then a Miracle Happened
I did everything I could for my family, but my husband, John, passed away last year, and I fell apart. He was an amazing father. I still remember when he bought our daughter, Kira, a yellow princess dress and chased her around the house.
We had a blessed and joyful life together, but everything changed after he was gone. It was just the two of us.
The first few months were a blur. I barely remember how we got through them. Friends and family brought food, helped with errands, and offered kind words, but nothing filled the emptiness in our home.
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The silence was deafening, the absence of his laughter a constant ache in my chest. Still, I did my best to hold it together for Kira’s sake. She was only six, and I didn’t want to burden her with the weight of my grief.
But as our first Christmas without him drew closer, it became harder and harder to keep up the facade. The holidays were always John’s favorite time of year.
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He loved the decorations, the carols, the spirit of giving. And most of all, he loved playing Santa for Kira.
Every year, he would disappear on Christmas Eve, only to reappear moments later in a full Santa suit, his beard perfectly white and his belly shaking with laughter. Kira would squeal with delight.
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Those memories were etched in my mind, both precious and painful.
Kira started asking about Santa sooner than I was ready for. I struggled and wondered how to explain that he wasn’t coming that year. I had told her that Daddy was in Heaven, but she didn’t know her father was Santa, too.
So, I changed the subject a lot, but I knew I couldn’t avoid the conversation forever. When we decorated the tree, she said, “I can’t wait to see Santa!”
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My heart broke even more, and I fell asleep trying to rehearse how I would tell her the truth the following day, Christmas Eve.
When evening arrived, I had the words all prepared. We were finishing up some cookies and enjoying the nice crackling fire I had set up to enjoy that night.
“Mommy,” she said suddenly, smiling widely. “Santa will come tonight, right?”
With a sigh, I sat beside her and wrapped her in my arms. “Kira, there’s something I need to tell you about Santa… and Daddy.”
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But my throat got tight. I couldn’t get the words out.
Just then, the doorbell rang. I hesitated, wiping away my tears. Who could that be?
Before I could answer, though, the door burst open! I froze when I heard a familiar “Ho, ho, ho!” My heart nearly stopped as I watched Santa Claus walk toward us.
Kira squealed while I was in shock, but as she ran to hug Santa, I realized who it was: Rick, my brother-in-law.
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Just behind him was Sandra, my best friend. They had gotten together to surprise us. She later told me they figured Kira didn’t need to know the truth about Santa this year.
I couldn’t have been more grateful. My daughter showed Santa the cookies she had baked and the tree we had decorated.
“Isn’t it the prettiest?” she asked.
“It’s the most beautiful tree I’ve ever seen,” Santa replied, giving me a meaningful look.
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For those few precious hours, the pain of loss faded, replaced by pure Christmas joy. Even though my husband was gone, I wasn’t alone. I had my daughter, my friends, and the memory of a love that would last forever. And that was the greatest gift of all.
If you liked these stories, check out this other set about grandparents. Think being a grandparent is all about unconditional love and endless indulgence? Not always. These three shocking tales reveal the challenges, confrontations, and tough love moments that unravel when entitlement clashes with generosity.
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