Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried for years to have a baby, using every method they could think of. They eventually accepted that they might only ever be an aunt and uncle. Then, one day, they got a text that changed their lives completely.
The couple had been trying to get pregnant since they got married in January 2018, but when it didn’t happen on its own, they tried everything else.
“We used ovulation tests, took prenatal vitamins, tracked cycles with apps, and used fertility monitors,” the Houston mom told Love What Matters.
“We even tried advice from friends, family, and strangers. For 14 months, we tried, prayed, and waited. Month after month, it was always a negative pregnancy test. It seemed like we might need help to conceive, so we even talked to doctors about it.”
Doctors didn’t offer much help to the couple. They mostly told Sadie to lose weight to improve her chances of getting pregnant. With no other advice, she had gastric surgery and lost 28 pounds.
Sadie’s OBGYN was excited about the weight loss and praised her for it.
“She told me that if I wasn’t pregnant within six months, she would refer me to a fertility specialist because she couldn’t prescribe fertility medication herself,” Sadie said. “I was thrilled! We finally got a positive step forward, even if it wasn’t immediate. We were excited about the progress.”
Unfortunately, the couple didn’t get pregnant after Sadie lost the weight, and they felt like they were back where they started.
“I always felt like I was meant to be a mother,” Sadie said. “Even though my surgeon warned me that I’d be very fertile after the surgery, I still wasn’t getting pregnant. So, we gave up and accepted that we might just be aunt and uncle to our nieces and godparents to our goddaughters.”
Just when the couple had decided to stop trying to have a baby, Sadie got a text from a friend asking if they would think about fostering a baby from a couple she knew.
At first, the couple was hesitant because they were told by a caseworker to take care of the baby while the birth mom was getting treatment. They worried they might get too attached. But then, the situation changed.
“The birth mom has decided she wants you to adopt the baby instead,” the caseworker said.
Sadie remembered saying, “‘Holy crap!!’ out loud when she found out she was going to be a mom.
“We went from having no kids to possibly fostering one, to suddenly being told, ‘You’re going to be parents!’ I was still in shock as I listened to the caseworker. I hung up and called my husband, shouting, ‘Babe!! They want us to adopt the baby! We’re going to be parents!’ He said, ‘Wait! REALLY?! I thought they just wanted us to foster him!’ I told him, ‘Nope! They want us to be his mom and dad.’”
The couple spent the weekend trying to take in the shocking news and getting ready, just in case the birth mom changed her mind.
By Monday, they were not only told that the birth mom still wanted them to adopt the baby, but she also wanted to do an independent adoption and was ready to sign the papers that day.
Their baby boy was born at just 33 weeks, which is seven weeks early. He weighed 4 lbs. 5 oz. “He was so tiny, he literally fit in one of my husband’s hands,” Sadie wrote.
“He was wrapped in a white blanket with pink and blue stripes,” Sadie said. “He had a small tube coming out of his nose because he couldn’t eat on his own since he was born early. But he was so cute!!!”
The couple shared their news on social media and were encouraged to create a registry. They listed 72 items, and within just three days, 55 of them were already bought for them.
Ezra Lee’s adoption was finalized in October 2020, and the couple had adorable family photos taken, all wearing t-shirts that said, “Families don’t have to match.”
In 2021, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin girls, Journee and Destinee, through embryo donation. True to their family motto, “Families don’t have to match,” the Black couple now has three white children – a boy and two girls.
For anyone who might judge their beautiful family, they have just one response: their family is built on the strongest foundation ever – love.
Why a 63-Year-Old Woman’s Body Generate So Much Surprise in Hollywood
“I think that I started hating my body when I was about 14.” In a recent Hollywood event, something truly intimate and unexpected happened that left everyone astonished. Emma Thompson, the 63-year-old actress, made a bold and empowering appearance, defying ageist stereotypes and challenging conventional beauty norms.
Older people are frequently overlooked in movies.
According to SAG, actors who are 40 or older had only about a third of the acting jobs in films and TV shows. But the numbers were much worse for older women compared to men. They said that 37% of all guys cast in movies and TV shows were 40 or older, while only 24% of the ladies in those shows were in that age group.
The difference is even more significant when it comes to leading roles. SAG found that only 21% of the main female characters were over 40, while 34% of the main male characters were that age. Another example of Hollywood’s mistreatment of older bodies is when in scary movies like X, older people without clothes are used to make the audience feel uneasy or scared.
Several stars have spoken about this issue.
Many famous stars have raised their voices against ageism in the entertainment industry, and they’ve also criticized the unrealistic beauty expectations they’ve had to deal with. Esteemed actors such as Julianne Moore, Jessica Lange, Jane Fonda, Jennifer Aniston, and Kate Winslet have openly discussed the challenges of age discrimination in Hollywood.
Their efforts have sparked meaningful conversations about the need for more diverse and authentic representations of people of all ages on screen. Notably, Kate Winslet’s stand against unrealistic body standards is evident in her refusal to allow the director of Mare of Easttown to edit her belly in an intimate scene. This bold move further underscores the importance of portraying natural and genuine bodies in media.
Emma Thompson decided to show how a real older body looks like.
Emma Thompson’s courageous decision to portray an authentic older body unclothed in the film Good Luck to You, Leo Grande speaks volumes about the prevailing issues of body image and ageism. She reflects, “It’s very challenging to be nude at 62, especially in a world where nothing has changed in the dreadful demands made on women to look a certain way.”
Thompson shares, “I realized that if I’m not near any mirrors and I look down at my body, it looks fine. I can see my toes, and it doesn’t look horrible. But as soon as I look in a mirror, I see nothing but flaws. It was definitely an interesting thing to experiment with.” Through her insights, Emma Thompson advocates for more authentic, compassionate, and diverse representations of older bodies in cinema.
Many other Hollywood’s beloved actors have opened up about the journey of aging in the glamorous yet challenging world of entertainment. In a candid collection of experiences, these stars share their triumphs, struggles, and insights on breaking through age-related barriers.
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