‘Families don’t have to match’ – Black couple share their journey to adopting three white children

Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried everything for years to get pregnant, and eventually they accepted that they would only ever be aunt and uncle. Then, one day, they received a text that completely turned their world upside down.

Since getting married in January 2018, the pair has been trying to get pregnant, so when that didn’t work out naturally, they tried everything else.

The Houston mother told Love What Matters, “Ovulation tests, prenatal vitamins, cycle tracking apps, fertility monitors.”

“We didn’t even try our luck at following the unsolicited counsel of strangers, friends, and family. We tried, prayed, and waited for fourteen months. Month after Month. pregnancy test negative following negative test. It appeared like we would require help getting pregnant. We even went so far as to discuss it with medical professionals.

The couple seemed to get little assistance from the doctors. Sadie was advised by everyone that she would get pregnant if she reduced weight. Since she had no other options, she underwent gastric surgery and shed 28 pounds.

“She informed me that since she was unable to give me the fertility medication, she would refer me to a fertility specialist if I wasn’t pregnant within six months,” Sadie recalled. I was ecstatic to hear that. We finally received a response other than “no”! We were ecstatic to hear “not right now.”

Unfortunately, though, the couple felt as though they had begun over after Sadie lost the weight and they were unable to conceive.

Connecting the Dots – Adoption Puzzle Fundraising EventAs everyone is aware, we received a call regarding our little two weeks ago.

Published on Friday, August 30, 2019 by Sadie Sampson

Sadie said, “I had always felt like I was meant to be a mother.” “I was still not pregnant even though my surgeon had spent a long time to warn me about how fertile I would be following surgery. Thus, we gave up. We came to the realization that our only destiny was to be our nieces’ aunts and uncles and our goddaughters’ godparents.

The couple had just come to the painful conclusion that they would not be able to conceive when Sadie’s friend texted her to ask if they would be willing to foster a child that a couple she knew was thinking about for themselves.

At first, the couple was apprehensive since they had been instructed by a caseworker to look after the child while the mother sought therapy. The couple was concerned that they would grow overly devoted to the child. But soon after, the narrative was altered.

The caseworker stated, “The birth mother decided she would prefer you guys adopt the child instead.”

“Holy crap!!” was the first thing Sadie uttered out loud when she learned she was expecting a child.

“Overnight, we went from not having any kids to possibly fostering one to, ‘You guys are parents!’” Still in shock, I listened to the caseworker as she spoke. After hanging up, I dialed my spouse! “Baby!” They desire that we adopt the child! They want us to have kids,” I cried out. Hold on! Really? He exclaimed, “I assumed they just wanted us to foster him.” “Nope!” “They want us to be his parents,” I remarked.

Over the weekend, the couple not only processed the surprising news but also braced themselves in case the mother had second thoughts.

On Monday, the mother not only expressed her desire for them to adopt the child, but also stated that she was prepared to sign the adoption papers independently.

At 33 weeks, their son had been born—seven weeks ahead of schedule. His weight was 4 lbs. 5 oz. Sadie writes, “He fit in one of my husband’s hands.”

Sadie said, “He was so small, swaddled in a white blanket with stripes of pink and blue.” He was early, therefore he couldn’t eat on his own, thus an NG tube was coming out of his nose. But my goodness, was he adorable!

The couple was urged to create a registry after they announced their announcement on social media. In just three days, 55 of the 72 goods they had advertised had been purchased.

Following the adoption of Ezra Lee, which was completed in October 2020, the couple had the cutest family portraits shot, sporting t-shirts that said, “Families don’t have to match.”

Through embryo donation, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin twins, Destinee and Journey, in 2021. The black couple, adhering to their family credo, “Families don’t have to match,” gave birth to three white children: two girls and one boy.

There is just one reaction for anyone who judges this lovely family: love is the strongest foundation there is.

In Her Letter to Santa, My Daughter Asked for ‘The Same Heart-Shaped Earrings Dad Gave to My Nanny’ — I Went Pale

When Dorothy reads her daughter’s innocent letter to Santa, she’s blindsided by a request for the same heart-shaped earrings her husband apparently gave their nanny. Suspicion spirals into doubt, leading Dorothy to uncover a heartbreaking truth tied to a long-kept secret…

My name’s Dorothy, and Christmas will always be the best time of the year for me. My husband, Jerry, and I have an eight-year-old daughter named Ruth, and our holiday traditions are what make it all magical.

A smiling little girl | Source: Midjourney

A smiling little girl | Source: Midjourney

Every December, Ruth writes a letter to Santa, folds it carefully, and places it in the freezer, which is bizarre but, to her, makes perfect sense.

“It’s how mail gets to the North Pole, Mom! I saw it on TV,” she said, her eyes wide.

This year was no different. Ruth had spent the better part of the evening at the dining table, her face scrunched in concentration as she sketched something on her letter while popping little chocolate-covered almonds into her mouth.

A bowl of chocolate covered almonds | Source: Midjourney

A bowl of chocolate covered almonds | Source: Midjourney

“It’s done, Mommy!” she chirped, skipping to the freezer and tucking it in with all the ceremony of a royal decree.

I smiled at her. I figured Ruth was asking for the usual things — you know, a new set of paints, a dollhouse, or maybe even the glittery unicorn toy she’d been eyeing.

Whatever it was, I couldn’t wait to make her little Christmas wishes come true. Ruth wasn’t a difficult child, and Christmas was the only time she asked for things. Even on her birthday, she wouldn’t ask for anything other than a huge chocolate cake.

A little girl with a chocolate cake | Source: Midjourney

A little girl with a chocolate cake | Source: Midjourney

That night, after Ruth had gone to bed, with Jerry reading to her, I crept into the kitchen to read her letter.

It had become my own little tradition. I loved peeking into my daughter’s world, seeing what magic she believed Santa could bring her, and all the reasons she gave him for being on the “Nice” list.

But as I unfolded the paper, my breath caught in my throat, almost choking me.

A folded piece of paper | Source: Midjourney

A folded piece of paper | Source: Midjourney

The page was filled with Ruth’s colorful handwriting and a drawing of a pair of heart-shaped earrings. Beneath the picture were the words:

“Dear Santa, please bring me the same heart-shaped earrings Dad gave to my nanny! Thank you!”

I froze.

A letter to Santa | Source: Midjourney

A letter to Santa | Source: Midjourney

The room suddenly felt too quiet, the air too thick.

What on earth was she talking about? Jerry had given Gloria, our nanny, heart-shaped earrings?

My hands shook as I reread the note, my heart racing. Why would Ruth ask for earrings like Gloria’s? Why would Jerry give our nanny jewelry at all?

My mind replayed moments I hadn’t given much thought to before, like the way Jerry’s face lit up when he joked with Gloria, the casual way he asked her to stay late when I had work functions, the thoughtful gifts he’d given her over the years… small things, sure, but enough to make my stomach churn now.

A pair of heart-shaped earrings | Source: Midjourney

A pair of heart-shaped earrings | Source: Midjourney

Was I blind to the obvious? Had Jerry been hiding an affair right under my nose?

The next morning, I went about my day as if nothing had happened, but inside, I was unraveling. I kissed Jerry on the cheek as he left for work, pretending everything was fine. Meanwhile, my brain was on overdrive.

“What’s on the agenda today?” I asked Gloria as she poured milk into Ruth’s cereal.

A smiling man | Source: Midjourney

A smiling man | Source: Midjourney

School was closed for the day, and I needed to know that Gloria was going to actually be productive with my child.

“We’re going to work on Ruth’s school projects,” Gloria said, smiling. “And then we’re going to read!”

“Sounds like a plan,” I said. “I have work to do, so I’m going to be in the study for most of the day. But we can grab smoothies later, Ruthie. You can leave early, Gloria.”

A woman holding a bottle of milk | Source: Midjourney

A woman holding a bottle of milk | Source: Midjourney

Gloria nodded and picked up Ruth’s breakfast. They had gotten into the habit of eating outside, trying to identify birds as they went along.

After Ruth and Gloria left the kitchen, I grabbed my laptop and ordered a nanny cam. It felt surreal, like something out of a bad soap opera that I had suddenly found myself in. I hated that I couldn’t just confront Jerry outright, but if he denied everything, I’d be no closer to the truth.

A woman using a laptop | Source: Midjourney

A woman using a laptop | Source: Midjourney

Thanks to speedy but ridiculously expensive delivery, the camera arrived a few hours later. I set it up in the living room, hiding it among the Christmas decorations.

As much as I didn’t want to, I had to know.

The next day, Jerry left for work as usual, and I dropped Ruth off at school. Gloria was home tidying up, humming along to Christmas carols on the radio.

A woman standing in a living room | Source: Midjourney

A woman standing in a living room | Source: Midjourney

I plastered on a fake smile and told her I’d be home late from work and to lock up when she left.

But by mid-morning, things changed.

My phone buzzed, indicating that the nanny cam app had detected motion. I opened it and saw Jerry standing in the living room. My heart dropped. He wasn’t supposed to be home.

I stared at the screen, watching as Jerry handed Gloria a small, gift-wrapped box. She looked surprised, then smiled as she opened it.

A box on a table | Source: Midjourney

A box on a table | Source: Midjourney

My head spun. I couldn’t sit at my desk for another second. I grabbed my bag, mumbled something about a family emergency to my boss, and drove home.

When I walked through the door, I felt like I’d stepped into a nightmare. Jerry was still there, standing near the couch, and Gloria was sitting with the gift in her lap. This time, it was a heart-shaped pendant.

Something to match those earrings, huh?

An upset woman driving | Source: Midjourney

An upset woman driving | Source: Midjourney

They both froze when they saw me.

“What’s going on?” I demanded, my voice trembling.

Neither of them answered right away. My eyes darted to Gloria’s ears, which were on display with her braided hair. And there they were.

The earrings. Heart-shaped, just like Ruth had drawn.

A woman sitting on a couch | Source: Midjourney

A woman sitting on a couch | Source: Midjourney

“Nice earrings, Gloria!” I spat, my voice dripping with sarcasm. “It must be nice to get all these things from my husband. Imagine. Jewelry from another woman’s husband.”

Gloria’s face went pale. She opened her mouth to speak, but Jerry stepped forward.

“Dot, stop,” he said, using my nickname to calm me down. “I can explain it all.”

A shocked man | Source: Midjourney

A shocked man | Source: Midjourney

“Oh, I’m sure you can,” I shot back. “And it better be good, because from where I’m standing it looks like you’ve been sneaking around behind my back! With our nanny!”

Jerry sighed deeply, his shoulders slumping.

“You weren’t supposed to find out this way.”

“That’s your explanation, Jerry?” I shouted. “That you weren’t supposed to get caught?”

An angry woman | Source: Midjourney

An angry woman | Source: Midjourney

“No, that’s not what I meant,” he said quickly, running a hand through his hair. “Just listen to me… okay? Those earrings. They’re not from me. Not really.”

“What does that even mean, Jerry?”

My husband hesitated, then took a deep breath.

A man with his hand on his head | Source: Midjourney

A man with his hand on his head | Source: Midjourney

“They were from Brian. My… well, we were best friends.”

The anger drained from my body, replaced by thick confusion.

“Brian? Who’s Brian?” I asked.

Gloria spoke up for the first time, her voice soft.

“Brian was Jerry’s best friend, Dorothy. My brother.”

A woman sitting on a couch | Source: Midjourney

A woman sitting on a couch | Source: Midjourney

My mind spun. Jerry sat me down, his voice heavy with guilt as he explained everything.

Fourteen years ago, his best friend Brian had passed away from cancer. Before he died, he asked Jerry to look after Gloria. At least it explained why Jerry had pushed for us to hire her.

She was only 19 at the time and had recently lost her parents too.

“He left me a box of gifts for her,” Jerry said, his voice on edge. “He wanted her to have pieces of him for milestones in her life—like birthdays, special occasions, moments where she needed to feel he was still with her. He planned all of it while he was undergoing chemo.”

An IV drip in a hospital | Source: Midjourney

An IV drip in a hospital | Source: Midjourney

I glanced at Gloria, whose eyes shimmered with tears.

Jerry continued to explain.

“I’ve been fulfilling that promise ever since. The earrings were in the box. They were meant for her and they were given by Brian. Not from me.”

I stared at him, the weight of his confession sinking in.

A pensive woman | Source: Midjourney

A pensive woman | Source: Midjourney

“So you’re telling me all this sneaking around… you were keeping a promise.”

“Yes,” he said softly. “I should have told you sooner, Dot. I just didn’t know how. It’s not exactly the kind of thing that comes up in conversation. And… talking about Brian is a lot for me.”

“And you didn’t think to tell me?” I asked Gloria. “You knew about Brian and Jerry the entire time and just… didn’t? Ruth asked for these earrings, dammit. She asked Santa for them, and that’s why I thought something was going on.”

A woman with folded arms | Source: Midjourney

A woman with folded arms | Source: Midjourney

Gloria shook her head sadly.

“I didn’t know Ruth would notice the earrings, let alone ask for them. If I had, I would’ve explained everything right away. I never wanted to cause trouble for anyone here…”

That Christmas was a mix of heartbreak and healing. Jerry and I had a long talk, and while I wasn’t thrilled about the secrets, I couldn’t deny the beauty of his promise to Brian. And honestly, Gloria was a part of our family. Ruth adored her.

A smiling woman and child | Source: Midjourney

A smiling woman and child | Source: Midjourney

We decided to sit down with Ruth and a platter of waffles, trying to explain the story behind the earrings in a way she could understand. She was fascinated, of course, and still insisted Santa had to bring her a pair.

And Santa delivered.

On Christmas morning, Ruth opened a tiny box to find her very own heart-shaped earrings. Her face lit up brighter than the tree, and for the first time in weeks, I felt my heart swell with joy instead of doubt.

A pair of heart-shaped earrings | Source: Midjourney

A pair of heart-shaped earrings | Source: Midjourney

Those earrings became more than just jewelry. They became a sort of reminder — of love and strength. Of Brian’s love for his sister. Of Jerry’s loyalty to his friend. And the love that kept our family together, even through misunderstandings. We also taught Ruth the power of promises and unconditional love.

Sometimes, the truth hurts. But sometimes, it heals.

And this Christmas, it did both.

A smiling little girl | Source: Midjourney

A smiling little girl | Source: Midjourney

Hosting Christmas for my in-laws was supposed to be a joyous affair, but the evening took a shocking turn when my mother-in-law gifted me something that left the entire room speechless. What started as festive cheer quickly spiraled into an unforgettable family showdown.

This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.

The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided “as is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.

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