Only weeks after Millie Smith and Lewis Cann learned they were having twin baby girls, they learned that only one would survive.
On April 30, after 30 weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, Smith delivered identical twins, Callie and Skye, the latter who lived only three hours.
Later in neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), Callie slept without her sister in the incubator, with her loving and grieving parents watching over her. In the unit with other babies, an overwhelmed mom of healthy newborn twins innocently told Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have two babies.
Crushed by the words, the new mom couldn’t find the words to explain her loss. Then, she realized that Skye’s legacy was to help other families who lose a child, and it came in the form of a purple butterfly.
In November 2015 Millie Smith and partner Lewis Cann found out they were having their first Child. Smith, who has twins in the family, said she had a “gut feeling” about having a duo and 10 weeks later, doctors confirmed she was expecting identical twin girls.
Less than two weeks after the excitement of knowing they would double the children in their home, the British couple were devastated to learn that one of their babies had a fatal condition and wouldn’t survive after birth.
“During the scan, the doctor didn’t say anything. I was very excited and loved seeing the little babies, but she was silent. Both Lewis and I immediately knew there must be a problem,” Smith said.
Doctors shared the news that one of the babies had anencephaly, which according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) affects about one in 4,600 babies across the U.S. It’s a serious birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull, and “almost all babies born with anencephaly will die shortly after birth.”
Knowing that one baby would die soon after birth, and that there were risks involved for their other baby, the couple decided to move forward with the extremely high-risk pregnancy.
Over the next several months, Smith and Cann named their twins Skye and Callie. “We knew that Skye needed to have a name before she was born,” Smith said. “Knowing she would only survive for seconds or minutes, I wanted her to be named during that time.”
The meaning behind “Skye,” she explained “was somewhere we knew she would always be, that we could look up at the sky and remember our baby.”
When Smith went into labor after only 30 weeks on April 30, she needed an emergency C-section. To help navigate the loss, the couple had a “bereavement midwife” during the birth, and they were put I a special room the called the “Daisy Room,” where families can spend time with a baby before and after she/he passes.
“When the girls were born, they both cried. This was a huge moment, as we were told that Skye would not make a noise or move,” said Smith, who was thankful to have three hours with Skye before she died. “We were cuddling Skye when she passed away. This was the worst moment in our lives. I have never ever felt heartbreak like that before. But I am proud that she fought for so long to spend time with us.”
Born premature, Callie had to stay in NICU while she gained some strength and also in the unit were three other sets of twin.
“Most of the nurses were aware of what had happened, but as time passed, people stopped talking about Skye. After about four weeks, everyone acted as though nothing had happened, meaning the families around me had no idea about our situation,” Smith recalled.
One morning, a stressed mother whose twins were also in NICU, harmlessly said to Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have twins.
“None of the other parents knew what had happened or anything about Skye. The comment was completely innocent and more out of humor…They weren’t to know that I did at one point have two.” Smith continued, “But the comment nearly broke me. I ran out [of] the room in tears and they had no idea why. I didn’t have the heart to tell them what had happened. A simple sticker would have avoided that entire situation.”
It was in that moment Smith realized she had to create something that would speak for parents who had just lost a baby, ensuring the misunderstanding never happens again.
She designed a poster for the NICU explaining both hospital personnel and visitors that any incubator with a purple butterfly on it means that one or more babies, in a set of multiples were lost.
“I chose butterflies, as I felt it was fitting to remember the babies that flew away, the color purple because it is suitable for both boys or girls,” said Smith.
The purple butterfly concept–now under the Skye High Foundation–has spread to hospitals in several countries around the world.
Callie is now a lively, happy seven-year-old, and twin’s memory lives in purple butterfly cards along with other initiatives to help families with babies like Skye all over the world. The purple butterflies now come in numerous forms, like ornaments, cards, blankets, stuffed animals and more.
“Ultimately I will never be able to stop this from happening but the more support groups we can set up and put things in place like the stickers the better it will be. It’s the hardest thing anyone has to deal with,” Smith said.
The Great Ketchup Debate: To Refrigerate or Not to Refrigerate?
It can be really confusing to walk through the aisles of our favorite grocery shop and figure out what food items require refrigeration and what doesn’t.
It is reasonable to believe that if a product isn’t refrigerated in stores, it also doesn’t need to be at home. That isn’t always the case, though.
A modest word in fine type can be found on the labels of many products on grocery store shelves if we look closely: “refrigerate after opening.” Sadly, not everyone takes note of this small directive, and even those who do sometimes decide to disregard it. Ketchup is an excellent illustration of this.
The popular ketchup brand, Heinz, actually advises chilling their product as soon as you bring it inside. You may be asking yourself, “But why does ketchup need to be refrigerated when I see bottles of it sitting on the store shelves?” Heinz wants you to know that it’s all for the best, though.
This ketchup conundrum intrigued me, so I decided to look into it directly. I grabbed a bottle of Heinz ketchup from my own kitchen and read the label carefully. And there it was—the warning to “For best results, refrigerate after opening”—subtly printed in small text on the label on the reverse. Thus, the recommendation is clear: refrigeration is advised.
Were you aware that Heinz addressed this issue on Twitter as well? The message on their short tweet said, “FYI: Ketchup goes in the fridge!!!” This tweet grabbed the attention of people all over social media and started a heated debate among ketchup lovers.
Heinz even went so far as to survey people about how they keep their ketchup in storage at home. The outcomes were really intriguing. Of all the people who use ketchup, 36.8% keep it in a cabinet and 63.2% keep it in the refrigerator.
It’s intriguing to learn the motivations behind some people’s decisions to disregard refrigeration recommendations. They contend that ketchup tastes good even when kept at room temperature and that it doesn’t spoil readily. The good news is that you can keep your ketchup fresher for longer by refrigerating it, which will increase its shelf life.
Thus, keep in mind what Heinz suggests if you’re still not sure if you should refrigerate your ketchup. And why not follow the rest of us and store that bottle of ketchup in the refrigerator, nice and cold? It’s a simple method to guarantee that your favorite condiment remains flavorful and fresh.
It’s your time to comment on the ketchup controversy now! Which is better for storing ketchup—in a cupboard or the refrigerator? Let’s continue the conversation and hear about your ketchup preferences!
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