
The notification popped up on my phone, another Instagram post from Grandma Rose. I sighed, tapping on the icon. There she was, her face smoothed and airbrushed beyond recognition, a pair of oversized, cartoonish sunglasses perched on her nose. A cascade of digital sparkles rained down around her. The caption read, “Feeling my vibe! #OOTD #YOLO #GrandmaGoals.”
My stomach churned. At first, it had been a novelty, a quirky, endearing quirk of my 81-year-old grandmother. But now, weeks into her social media blitz, it was bordering on unbearable.
It had started innocently enough. She’d asked me to help her set up an Instagram account, intrigued by the photos I’d shown her of my travels and friends. I’d thought it was a sweet way for her to stay connected with the family, a digital scrapbook of sorts.
But Grandma Rose had taken to Instagram like a fish to water, or rather, like a teenager to a viral trend. She’d discovered the world of filters, the power of hashtags, and the allure of online validation. Suddenly, she was posting multiple times a day, each photo more heavily filtered than the last.
The captions were a whole other level of cringe. She’d pepper them with slang I barely understood, phrases like “slay,” “lit,” and “no cap.” She’d even started using emojis, a barrage of hearts, stars, and laughing faces that seemed to clash with her gentle, grandmotherly image.
The pinnacle of my mortification came when she asked me, with wide, earnest eyes, how to do a “get ready with me” video. “You know, darling,” she’d said, her voice brimming with excitement, “like those lovely young ladies on the internet. I want to show everyone my makeup routine!”
I’d choked on my coffee. My makeup routine consisted of moisturizer and a swipe of mascara. Grandma Rose’s “makeup routine” involved a dusting of powder and a dab of lipstick.
The worst part was, my entire family was egging her on. They’d shower her with likes and comments, calling her “amazing,” “inspiring,” and “a social media queen.” They were completely oblivious to my growing dread.
I was trapped in a vortex of secondhand embarrassment. What if my friends saw these posts? What if my coworkers stumbled upon her profile? I could already imagine the whispers, the snickers, the awkward attempts at polite conversation.
I found myself avoiding family gatherings, dreading the inevitable discussions about Grandma Rose’s latest post. I’d scroll through my feed, wincing at each new notification, my finger hovering over the “unfollow” button, a button I couldn’t bring myself to press.
One evening, I found myself sitting across from my mom, the glow of her phone illuminating her face as she scrolled through Grandma Rose’s profile. “Isn’t she just the cutest?” she gushed, showing me a photo of Grandma Rose with a digital halo and angel wings.
“Mom,” I said, my voice strained, “don’t you think this is… a little much?”
My mom looked at me, her brow furrowed. “What do you mean? She’s having fun. She’s expressing herself.”
“But it’s not her,” I argued. “It’s like she’s trying to be someone else.”
“She’s adapting, darling,” my mom said, her voice gentle. “She’s embracing technology. She’s living her best life.”
I knew I wasn’t going to win this argument. My family, in their well-meaning attempt to support Grandma Rose, were completely blind to the awkwardness of the situation.
I decided to try a different approach. The next time Grandma Rose asked me for help with her Instagram, I sat down with her and gently explained the concept of “authenticity.” I showed her photos of herself, unfiltered and unedited, her smile genuine, her eyes sparkling with wisdom.
“You’re beautiful just the way you are, Grandma,” I said, my voice sincere. “You don’t need filters or slang to be amazing.”
She looked at the photos, her eyes softening. “Do you really think so, darling?” she asked, her voice a whisper.
“Absolutely,” I said, squeezing her hand.
Grandma Rose didn’t stop posting, but she did tone it down. The filters became less intense, the captions more genuine. She even started sharing stories from her life, anecdotes that were both heartwarming and hilarious.
And slowly, I began to appreciate her online presence. I realized that it wasn’t about trying to be an influencer; it was about Grandma Rose finding her own way to connect with the world, to express her joy, to simply be herself. And in the end, that was more than enough.
49ers Star Charvarius Ward the Lose of His 1-Year-Old Daughter
Superstar football player Charvarius Ward shared heartbreaking news on Instagram yesterday, October 29, 2024. In an emotional post, he revealed that his baby daughter had passed away.

49ers cornerback Charvarius Ward recently shared heartbreaking news on Instagram about the loss of his 1-year-old daughter, Amani Joy. Ward, who founded the organization Charvarius for Change in 2021, posted a loving photo of Amani smiling beside a loved one.

In his message, Charvarius expressed his sorrow, sharing that Amani had passed away on Monday morning, October 28, 2024. He described her as a “blessing” who filled their lives with joy, teaching them patience, trust, and positivity.

The grieving father, who began his football career at Hinds Community College, spoke about Amani’s strength and courage. He shared how she brought happiness to every room with her smile, adding that she had overcome challenges at such a young age.

Charvarius and Amani’s mom, Monique, felt privileged to experience the world through Amani’s eyes, which brought positive change to their lives. Charvarius ended his message by saying, “She will forever be daddy’s best friend and mommy’s little girl. We’ll miss you and love you forever, Amani Joy.”

In addition to his post, Charvarius shared on his Instagram Story with a message on a black background, saying, “I’m Broken ,” along with a photo of Amani in a onesie with the words, “My Baby. My Life. My Queen. My Heart. My Everything .” Monique also shared a post on her Story, writing, “My baby. God why? .”

The 49ers also expressed condolences, describing Amani as bringing joy to everyone with her “sweet demeanor and contagious laugh.” They added that they stand in grief with Charvarius and Monique, offering their love and support.

Earlier this year, Charvarius had shared a series of photos of Amani on Instagram to honor World Down Syndrome Day on March 21, 2024. He shared joyful moments with her and spoke about how Amani was a blessing. Initially, he and Monique struggled with her diagnosis, but those feelings turned to love once they saw her. Amani was born on November 17, 2022, and had undergone heart surgery early in life, but her parents cherished every moment with her.

An Instagram account created by Amani’s parents captured key moments of her life, from her birth to joyful times spent with her family. Our deepest condolences go out to Amani’s parents and loved ones as they mourn her loss.
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