When I proposed to Micah, I never imagined that the ring I chose would spark a revelation that shattered our relationship. What began as a joyful engagement quickly turned into a test of honesty and character, exposing truths neither of us could ignore.
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Micah and I had been dating for a year before we decided to get engaged. I was over the moon and couldn’t wait to share the news with our families and friends. I chose a modest yet elegant diamond ring that I felt symbolized our genuine love and commitment.
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The next morning, I got a call from my mom, who was thrilled about the engagement. Her excitement was contagious, and I felt even more elated to hear her enthusiastic congratulations. Little did I know that this phone call would be the beginning of an unexpected and revealing turn of events that would change everything.
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“Congratulations, honey! I’m so happy for you!” my mom’s voice was filled with joy.
“Thanks, Mom! But how did you find out so quickly?” I asked, puzzled.
“Micah just posted it on Facebook! The yellow diamond looks so unusual,” she said.
“Yellow??” I replied, my confusion growing.
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I hurried to my laptop and navigated to Micah’s Facebook page. I scrolled through her feed and saw a picture of her hand adorned with a ring that looked nothing like the one I had given her. Instead of the modest diamond ring I had chosen, there was a flashy yellow diamond ring in the photo.
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It was clear that she wanted to showcase something more extravagant than what I had offered. My heart sank as I realized she had chosen to post a fake ring instead of proudly showing the one I gave her.
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I felt a mix of betrayal and sadness, questioning her true feelings about our engagement. I wondered how many other things she had been dishonest about, and whether our entire relationship was built on lies.
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I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. I needed answers right away, so I confronted Micah.
“Why did you post a different ring on Facebook?” I asked, trying to keep my voice steady.
Micah looked at me, clearly uncomfortable. “You really expected me to show off that cheap ring? I thought you’d get me something nicer. I’m kinda embarrassed by it. But you don’t want me to feel bad, right?”
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I took a deep breath, trying to stay calm. This wasn’t the Micah I thought I knew. We had always been honest with each other, or so I believed. Her words stung, revealing a side of her I hadn’t seen before. I felt a growing sense of disappointment as I realized how much she valued material appearances over our relationship.
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I remembered the many conversations we’d had about values and how we both claimed to prioritize honesty and simplicity over material things. Now, I saw that her words were empty, and it hurt deeply.
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“Of course, I don’t want you to feel bad. But there’s more to this than you realize,” I said, hinting at what I knew.
Micah’s confusion was evident. “What do you mean?” she asked, a frown forming on her face.
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I looked at her, my expression serious. “Two weeks before our proposal, I got a call from your ex. He told me something interesting about you. He mentioned how he proposed to you with a ring, and you called it cheap and posted a fake one instead. I personally chose this ring for you.”
Micah’s eyes widened as I revealed the real ring. “Oh honey, it’s so beautiful! It’s exactly what I wanted. Thank you!”
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I could see the excitement in her eyes, but it only deepened my resolve. “You don’t understand. I bought this ring for you and would have given it to you if you had passed the test. But, as we all saw, you failed.”
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I remembered my conversation with her ex, how he described the heartbreak he felt when she dismissed his sincere gesture for not being flashy enough. His words echoed in my mind, reinforcing my decision to test her.
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Her tears flowed as she continued to plead, “Please, I can explain! I was just embarrassed. I didn’t mean to hurt you.”
Micah’s face went pale, and she started to panic. “You can’t be serious! This is so unfair! How could you set me up like this? I thought you loved me!” she cried, her voice rising.
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I remained calm, watching her reaction. “I did love you, but I can’t be with someone who values material things over honesty and respect. This was a test to see if you had changed, and clearly, you haven’t.”
Her tears flowed as she continued to plead, “Please, I can explain! I was just embarrassed. I didn’t mean to hurt you.”
But I was resolute. “Actions speak louder than words, Micah. I need someone who values me for who I am, not for the price tag of a ring.”
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Ignoring her desperate attempts to explain, I packed my things and left, feeling a mix of sadness and relief. I knew it was the right decision, but it still hurt to walk away from someone I had once loved deeply.
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As I packed my belongings, Micah continued to plead, “We can work this out, please! I just wanted something to show off to my friends. It didn’t mean I don’t love you.”
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I paused for a moment, considering her words. “It’s not about the ring, Micah. It’s about trust and honesty. If you can’t be proud of what we have without needing to impress others, then what do we really have?” With that, I walked out the door, feeling a heavy weight lift off my shoulders.
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As I walked out of the door, I felt a strange sense of relief. Later, I decided to reach out to her ex-fiancé to express my gratitude.
“Thank you for telling me about her true colors. You saved me from making a huge mistake,” I told him.
He sounded genuinely relieved as well. “I’m glad my experience could help someone else. It’s tough, but better to know now than later.”
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Reflecting on everything that happened, I realized how much I had been willing to overlook in the name of love. I learned a valuable lesson about trust and the importance of true character.
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This experience opened my eyes to what really matters in a relationship. Although it was painful to end things with Micah, I knew it was the right decision for my future happiness. Moving on, I was determined to find someone who would value me for who I am, not for what I could buy.
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Reflecting on everything that happened, I learned a valuable lesson about trust and the importance of true character. I realized that honesty and genuine love are worth more than any material possession.
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Moving on, I was determined to find someone who would value me for who I am, not for what I could buy. I started to focus more on self-growth and understanding what I truly wanted in a partner.
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In the next few weeks, I leaned on friends and family, seeking their support and wisdom. I knew that I couldn’t overcome this alone and having their support was invaluable to me.
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Now, I know the type of girl that I want and how to spot the red flags at the beginning of a relationship. I’m so grateful I didn’t marry the wrong person.
Michael Jackson’s only daughter Paris proud of African-American roots, identifies as black
Paris Jackson, the only daughter of late pop star Michael Jackson, opened up about her African-American roots and how proud she is of that, as well as the criticism she received.
Paris, 25, was born to parents Billie Jean hitmaker and Debbie Rowe in 1998.
Over the years, there have been speculations that Jackson wasn’t the biological father of his three children, Paris and her two brothers, Bigi, 22, and Prince, 27. This was due to the fact that that many couldn’t see any resemblance between the late star and the kids, especially Paris who has white skin, light eyes and now bleached-blond hair.
The kids were very close with their father who went to great lengths to protect them from media scrutiny. His measures were unlike, however. He would show his son Bigi to the public with his face covered with a blanket, causing him troubles while growing up because his friends often teased him. He now prefers to be called Bigi.
Following the star’s death in 2009, his children were tossed alone in the public eye, turning them a highly profitable prey for the media that were eager to share their photos and followed their every step.
This experience left Paris battling a post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
“I experience audio hallucinations, sometimes, with camera clicks and severe paranoia and have been going to therapy for a lot of things, but that included,” she shared.
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By age 15, Paris attempted suicide “multiple times” and in 2019 she was admitted at a treatment facility. “It was just self-hatred…Low self-esteem, thinking that I couldn’t do anything right, not thinking I was worthy of living anymore.”
Today, she’s a successful musician who follows into her father’s footsteps. Over the years, she has also walked the runway for famous brands such as Chanel. Paris is a member of the band The Soundflowers.
“Everyone in my family does music. I mean, I’m a Jackson,” she said in 2020. “It makes sense that I’m a musician but like, a Jackson doing folk indie?”
Paris is very close to her brothers and looks up to Prince. “He’s everything to me, you know?” In 2020, she told People of her relationship with her older brother. “I’ve always looked up to him and always wanted his approval and everything, and wanted to be more like him.”
He loves and supports his younger sister as much. “Basically, as a person, she is who my dad is. The only thing that’s different would be her age and her gender,” he said of Paris, adding that she’s similar to her father “in all of her strengths, and almost all of her weaknesses as well. She’s very passionate.”
The physical appearance of the King of Pop underwent significant changes over the course of his life and many accused him of bleaching his skin, which was considerably darker in his younger days, but he claimed he had never done anything to his skin and that it turning white was a result of Vitiligo, during an Oprah interview in 1993.
“I am proud of my race. I am proud of who I am,” Jackson told Winfrey at the time.
Back in 2017, speaking of herself, Paris told Rolling Stone magazine she “considers [herself] black,” and that “[Michael] would look me in the eyes and he’d point his finger at me and he’d be like, ‘You’re black. Be proud of your roots.’”
“Most people that don’t know me call me white. I’ve got light skin and, especially since I’ve had my hair blond, I look like I was born in Finland or something,” she said. “And I’d be like, ‘okay, he’s my dad, why would he lie to me?’ So I just believe what he told me. [Because], to my knowledge, he’s never lied to me.”
This declaration of race triggered criticism on Paris. Among the rest, it was host Wendy William’s that mocked Paris’ statement.
“I get that she considers herself black and everything, but I’m just talking about the visual because you know…black is not what you call yourself, it’s what the cops see you when they got steel to your neck on the turnpike.”
She added: “It’s what they see. But that’s cute and good for her.”
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