When James, my husband, started leaving the house in a rush, I was sure something sinister was happening. He did this several times without a clear explanation. His strange behavior had me thinking he might be ch_eating, as he refused to tell me the real truth. When I finally found out the truth of what he was doing, I was shaken to my core!
For ten years of our marriage, I thought I knew everything about him. But MAN, was I mistaken! What I believed I knew about him was that he was driven and successful. He always seemed so tough, almost impenetrable
For all the time James and I had been together, I’d never seen him cry! But I never doubted his love for me; I could simply feel it in his actions, even if he didn’t say it often. That was until the last few months when things started to change.
My husband began acting differently. He was rarely home, spent no time with the children, and every time his phone rang, he would immediately leave.
When I confronted him about the calls and the rushed departures, he made a claim I couldn’t fathom. “It’s urgent office work, my love.” I didn’t believe him at all, mainly due to the next thing I am about to share.
What had me doubting him was the oddest part of all this. My husband would come back home and IMMEDIATELY throw his clothes in the washing machine! His clothes were washed even if he’d only worn them that day for roughly an hour!
After that, James would take a shower, no matter how briefly he’d been gone. It was perplexing and, frankly, worrisome! No matter how I tried to get him to tell me the truth about what he was actually doing, James would stick to the work excuse.
I once snuck to the washing machine during his shower time. Doing my own investigations I pulled out his clothes to smell them for women’s perfume. Instead, I was hit with a stench I couldn’t explain! His clothes smelled PUTRID!
That evening, after my husband left in a hurry once again, I made a decision that I couldn’t take it anymore and was fed up. I needed to know what was going on! I grabbed my coat and tracked him down, following him to his destination.
My heart pounded as I trailed his car through the winding streets. He finally came to a halt when he parked in front of an old, run-down building on the edge of town.
I even wondered whether it was safe to go in or not and hesitated for a while before summoning the courage to enter. But what I witnessed inside left me SPEECHLESS!
I saw him with a bunch of people and they were doing something I couldn’t even comprehend as I stood there with my mouth open. James, my stoic, seemingly indifferent husband, was there in an APRON! MY man was serving food to a group of homeless people!
He was smiling, chatting, and laughing, a side of him I had NEVER seen before! It was like watching a stranger, but one who looked so much like the man I married! As if sensing my presence, James looked up, and our eyes met.
He froze, his face a mask of fear and surprise. My husband then quickly made his way over to me, taking off his apron as he walked. “Lily, I can explain,” he said, his voice trembling slightly. “Please do,” I replied, trying to keep my voice steady.
“What is all this? Why didn’t you tell me?” James took a deep breath, leading me to a quieter corner. “This is my project, the one I live for.” I watched him, waiting for the revelation that was about to change everything I thought I knew about my husband.
“I was born in poverty,” he began. “Sometimes, my family had nothing to eat. My single mom couldn’t feed me and my brother, so she gave us up for adoption,” James said. “We were taken in by a wealthy family who gave us everything we needed.”
I was shocked that I’d never known this about him. “But there was a catch. My new dad was strict; he believed in toughness and never showing vulnerability,” my husband continued. “I had to bury my soft side deep inside just to survive in that house because my adopted father forbade me from showing it.”
“He’s the one who taught me to be tough and determined, hence my work ethic.” Tears welled up in my eyes as I listened. This was a side of James I never knew, a past he had never shared. “So, you started this to show your true self?” I asked, my voice breaking.
“Yes,” he said, his eyes reflecting a mixture of pain and relief. “When I became successful, I realized I needed to find a way to express my soft side somewhere. I wanted to give back somehow.”
“I wanted to help people who are in the same position I once was.”
“So, I started this shelter, this kitchen, as my way of giving back and being true to who I am. It’s a part of me I’ve hidden for so long.” He explained how he started feeding poor and homeless people and sheltering them too.
What he did hit me hard, the weight of his hidden life pressing down on me. I understood now why he had been so secretive, why he NEEDED this outlet. It wasn’t just about work; it was about redemption and compassion.
I took his hand in mine. “James, you should have told me. We could have done this together.” He squeezed my hand, a tear slipping down his cheek. At that moment, I fell deeper in love with him, realizing that he was human too.
I saw a side of him that made me see that he was a multifaceted being. “I was scared, Lily. Scared of what you might think, scared of appearing weak.”
“You’re not weak, my darling,” I said firmly. “Showing your soft side, helping these people, that’s the STRONGEST thing you can do!”
Since then, our relationship changed. I finally understood why he was secretive and washed his clothes after every trip. I joined James in his mission. I started volunteering at the shelter and bringing the children along too.
They learned the value of kindness and humility, and at the same time saw their father in a new light! We grew closer than ever, united by his hidden passion and newfound openness. My husband showed me that true strength lies in being able to show your vulnerability.
I also learned through him that inner strength lay in giving WITHOUT expecting anything in return. The act of giving was a gift of its own. Our family became stronger, bound by love. We were united by his formerly hidden compassion, newfound openness, and a shared commitment to helping others.
Luckily for Lily, her husband wasn’t doing anything wrong on his random trips.
4 times Taylor Swift went makeup-free and looked flawless
Swifties, her devoted fan group, are well-known for her gorgeous makeup appearances in addition to her musical prowess and amorous exploits. Ever before her breakout single “Tim McGraw” reached the top of the Billboard charts in 2006, the singer has dabbled in a range of cosmetic appearances. In addition to lengthy lashes, Swift has also dabbled in pink tones, blue eyeliner, dark, smokey eyes, and cat eyes that are “sharp enough to kill a man.” Not to mention how flawlessly she’s worn every red lipstick. Have you ever pondered, though, how Taylor Swift looked by herself?
The star has openly admitted to have the reasonable but unwanted tendency of forgetting to remove her makeup, despite her appearing flawless beauty. In 2011, Swift told Allure, “I don’t always remember to remove my makeup. Alright, pretty much all the time.” The pop queen, though, appears just as stunning without makeup as she does when taking the stage at her sold-out gigs and appearing on TV.
paired with a grin
On January 22, 2019, Taylor Swift shared a carefree selfie wearing a denim jacket, lovely dirty blonde hair brushed to the side, and minimal makeup. She put a smile next to her “Cats” character, Bombalurina, with the proper hashtag, “Meow,” in the caption of the picture. Even without makeup, the celebrity had gorgeous eyes, full lips, and clear skin. With raised eyebrows and a slightly menacing appearance, this selfie radiates a dynamic feeling, which is enhanced by the absence of cosmetics.
Still, what can we say? You really are lovely.
On October 24, 2022, Taylor Swift demonstrated that makeup is not required to take a depressing photo, especially when she was announcing the release of her most current album. The musician, dressed in fairytale-inspired clothing, looked stunning without makeup, gazing off into the distance with her hair styled in a braided bun. The ad image’s description went on, “Midnight, such a famous and storied hour… This sparkling evening, I’ll be offering my personal interpretation of a well-known fable. Given the success of her “Midnights” album, this picture not only demonstrated Swift’s natural beauty but also her inner and outer brilliance.
True Swifties all know that Taylor Swift loves to look nice in sweaters, or should we say, cardigans. On October 24, 2018, the artist disclosed her love for turtlenecks—possibly more than her taste in makeup. The music diva flaunted her famous blond bangs and gorgeous blue eyes in a photo she took while sporting a black, form-fitting turtleneck. The post’s description joked, “Here we can observe an Australian swiftlet in her natural habitat, a turtleneck.” The subsequent images in the post showcase Swift experimenting in a natural Australian location, contributing to the grounded and organic vibe of the selfie.
Never go out of style
During the COVID-19 lockdowns, almost all active social media users posted at least one picture of themselves taken at home without makeup and captioned it with something about how bored they were. Following the trend, Taylor Swift shared a stunning makeup-free selfie on Instagram on April 27, 2020. She added, “Not a lot going on at the moment,” as the caption for the photo, her characteristic blond curls hanging just over her clavicle as she looked straight into the camera. Swift’s caption discussed the lockdown experience, but what really caught viewers off guard—or not—was how beautifully makeup-free Swift appeared.
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