While celebrating a new life and transitioning into a new role, a mother found herself struggling to get a moment alone after she welcomed her daughter. A time that was meant to be exciting for her and her husband led to them having a big fight over their parenting roles.
In the whirlwind of joy and exhaustion in the early days of parenthood, a mother found herself longing for a mere moment of quietness and alone time. She took to Reddit to share her frustrations. She started off by explaining that she had only had her child for two weeks. Her daughter was strictly breastfeeding, but in addition to cluster feeding, she realized her daughter found comfort in being close to her.
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This meant that her new role allowed her little to no time alone. “I’ve showered once by myself since having her, and it only lasted long enough for me to soap up before she was crying and my husband was bringing her into the bathroom with me. I think I literally had all of 2-3 minutes,” she wrote.
On the contrary, she noticed her husband’s life had not changed. He still got to have long and uninterrupted showers every day but never understood why his showers frustrated his wife.
Each time she was in the shower, and the baby would cry, her husband would bring their newborn to her to calm her down. It made her angry that he did not even try to calm the baby down on his own, but his excuse was that the child loved showers, and seeing her cry hurt him deeply.
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As sweet as his fears sounded, the Redditor still needed to find a way to get a full self-care routine without a baby being handed over to her. So, she decided to call in help. She asked her mother to watch her daughter as she showered. Her husband was not there when she reached out to her child’s grandmother, but when he arrived, he asked what his mother-in-law was doing at their house.
Surprisingly, he was angry at his wife’s decision to call her mother just to take a shower. “I could have watched her. Why would you do that?” he asked, to which the Redditor responded, “Every time you watch her while I shower, she ends up in here with me within 2 minutes of me being in here because you don’t even try to calm her down.”
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Therefore, after five days of trying to shave her legs, she could not wait to enjoy the warm water hitting her body and relaxing her muscles. “I need to self-care,” the Redditor emphasized.
The original poster’s honest account of her experience as a new mother erupted in a chorus of voices from commenters sharing their own experiences and offering support. One commenter challenged the husband’s logic and suggested, “If, according to hubby, showers calm her down, why isn’t he taking her on his 30-60 minute showers?”
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Another suggestion was for the OP to lock the door as a temporary solution and to teach her husband a lesson on respecting someone’s privacy. Another Reddit user said the husband made himself look bad in front of his mother-in-law, but it was time he realized that he could also parent his daughter without always running to his wife.
The discussion took a deeper dive into the dynamics of communication and support within the relationship. Commenters pointed out the absurdity that the husband had been more concerned about his wife calling her mother rather than making sure that his wife’s well-being was attended to. “You found a way around it. And now, even knowing how hard it’s been for you, he’s still not actually concerned about you; he’s just worried about how it looks to your mum,” remarked a commenter.
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One mother said her husband once interrupted her hair appointment but she had a serious conversation with him and made him look back at the number of haircuts he had had since their baby arrived. She told him never to interrupt her alone time unless it was an emergency, so the commenter advised the OP to have the same stern conversation with her husband.
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Another commenter shared a personal story of how her husband had slacked at the beginning of their parenting journey and how she eventually found a way to work as a team. The mother said her baby was a bit fussy on the first night home and she would always take the lead and calm her down.
But after three days, she put on earplugs and requested her husband only wake her up when the baby needed a feed and let her partner take care of the baby during the night, which led to a more equitable parenting dynamic.
The commenter added that allocating responsibilities helped them both understand the difficulty and joy of caring for a newborn, but it also allowed them to foster empathy and understanding. “That night, my partner became an equal parent,” the commenter added.
Here is a story about a newborn who cried nonstop no matter what the parents did. But they eventually realized the answer to their child’s misery was in the crib.
People wondered about the purpose of these 6 things and got unexpected answers
If you’re unsure, look it up on Google, or even better, ask around in the online community for the solution. These days, knowledge is at our fingertips because to the digital age we live in, which not only makes it possible for us to study a vast amount of fresh information but also connects us to other people who have interests in common.
Six individuals approached the Internet users and requested their assistance in identifying the objects they had discovered. They received their responses quickly, as was to be expected.
1. Is it trash or is there more to it?
While rummaging through the junk drawer, someone noticed something that caught his eye. This individual called the object a “scoopy doodad” and was curious to find out what it was or if it was just a piece of junk. He described it as being very heavy, unmarked, and having a very little hole on top.
The online community claims that the original Sunbeam Mixmaster included a juicer attachment, which included a bowl that attached to the mixer’s top and an odd-looking item that served as the spout through which the juice would flow. The purpose of the wire portion that is holding the little strainer is to remove the pulp.
A vintage cabinet discovered
Someone opened an old cabinet and discovered an odd device made entirely of glass with tiny holes running the length of it. They were curious to find out more, and fortunately, other users of the internet were there to inform them of their discovery.
This item turned out to be a flower frog that was used to support a vase of flowers. Have you ever witnessed anything like before?
3. A bulky glass item
Someone found a heavy glass object and asked Redditors to help him identify it. It was unmarked when it arrived, and the top had a very little hole. The people on this site knew the solution, as usual.
Perhaps you were surprised to learn that this thing was actually an oil candle.
4. An enigmatic item discovered in a bedroom drawer
A curious thing was found inside the bed drawer, leaving one Reddit member perplexed. Although the bottom seemed to be composed of soft leather or suede, they were unsure of its possible identity.
It was revealed by a user who was knowledgeable about the item’s nature that this is a nail buffer. It’s something I never would have anticipated.
5. What’s concealed beneath the flooring?
One Reddit member was having trouble identifying a silver-colored device that looked like an old-fashioned scissor. They claimed to have discovered the strange object beneath the floorboards of a house built in the 1800s.
Despite its peculiar appearance, it was discovered that this item, which was used to peel the tops off soft-boiled eggs, was widely utilized and a fixture in many homes in the past.
6. An odd discovery in a motel room
A visitor observed something in a hotel room that intrigued him enough to inquire about it with Reddit users. They couldn’t help but wonder why their bedside table had a vertical slot inside of it.
As usual, Redditors were quick to respond to this person, letting them know that a tablet or laptop may be stored in this position.
Were you aware of what these things were?
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