My house used to be spotless when it was me and my husband. But then his friend came to stay and fights and clashes began. My husband didn’t care how I felt or about the distress I shared. It all finally came right when I took matters into my own hands.
When my husband offered his friend sanctuary at our home, he did it without my consent. Little did I know that having his longterm pal there would become a nightmare. Circumstances pushed me to take drastic measures to remedy things.
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This is a photo of the bedroom after my husband’s best friend, Alex, had been staying with us for a few weeks. I cannot describe the smell to you, but believe me, it is putrid and unbearable! Alex moved in with us because his house was undergoing major renovations.
To be honest, my husband invited his friend to come live with us without discussing it with me first. I wasn’t happy with this arrangement, asking, “How long will he be here? And why didn’t you talk to me first before making such a drastic decision?”
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“I am sorry, love. I wasn’t thinking straight. I allowed my excitement to control me,” he explained. The poor thing looked sincere in his apology, so I relented. But little did I know that would be a big mistake on MY part.
Initially, it was supposed to be a short-term arrangement, but weeks turned into months. My husband, Jake, thought it would be fun to have his best friend around. But he didn’t consider the extra work it would create for me.
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“Don’t worry, babe,” Jake said the day Alex arrived, carrying his duffel bag and a box of video games. “It’ll be like old times. We’ll have a blast!” He also vowed that they’d stay out of my way and wouldn’t be a nuisance.
I forced a smile, but inside, I was already dreading the mess and the idea of living with two men. Jake and Alex had been inseparable since college, bonded by their love for gaming and sports. I, on the other hand, liked my peace and order.
A happy man carrying a duffel bag while his friend follows behind | Source: Midjourney
Within days, the house transformed, and NOT in a good way! Empty beer bottles littered the living room, snack wrappers were everywhere, and dirty laundry piled up in Alex’s room! Jake and Alex would stay up late.
All they did since our guest came to stay was play video games or drink beer together. Their laughter echoed through the house, while I tried to sleep with a pillow over my head. I was so overwhelmed by all the extra cleaning I had to do.
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And to add to that, I was starting to feel increasingly lonely. One evening, after a particularly long day at work, I found the kitchen in shambles. Crumbs covered the counter, the sink was full of dirty dishes, and a mysterious sticky substance featured on the floor.
I couldn’t take it anymore! “This has to STOP!” I said to myself through clenched teeth and balled-up fists. I decided to tackle my issues with Alex alone with my husband. But, he and his friend were glued at the hip and it was hard to get Jake by himself.
A dirty kitchen with used plates, glasses, and mugs | Source: Pexels
When I finally got a small gap where my husband was by himself, I decided to confront him. “Jake, can we talk?” I called from the doorway of his home office, where he was immersed in work while Alex was knee-deep in another video game in the living room.
“Sure, babe. What’s up?” he said, not looking away from the laptop screen. “I can’t keep up with all the cleaning. I need some help around here.” Jake paused what he was doing and turned to me with a dismissive wave.
A man working on a laptop in his home office | Source: Pexels
I must say, I didn’t expect the response I got from him and it really hurt. Brushing my concerns off he replied, “Oh, don’t be such a downer! You just can’t stand that everything is not about you. Besides, it’s only one more room to clean. It’s not a big deal.”
His words stung! I was about to say something back to him when I noticed he’d gone back to his work! He wasn’t acknowledging my presence anymore! I walked away, feeling both angry and hurt. That night, I lay awake, listening to the childhood friends having a great time!
Two men sitting on the floor eating burgers while playing video games | Source: Pexels
Then and there I started planning my next move. I decided to show Jake what “not a big deal” really meant. I figured he needed to experience it firsthand. The next morning, I woke up early and gathered all of Alex’s trash.
Since they slept late, they were going to wake up much later than me. I picked up the empty cans, dirty clothes, and half-eaten food and dumped them all in Jake’s office. By the time they woke up, the room looked like a war zone!
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“Hey, what the hell?” my husband shouted from his office as soon as he opened the door. I knew throwing all the trash in there would have the most impact since Jake worked from home. He needed that space to be functional.
I didn’t bother responding or attending to him since I knew why he was shouting. Instead, Alex popped in and laughed, “Whoa, bro! Your office is a mess! You should do something about that if you want to get any work done.”
A shocked man standing in a dirty room | Source: Midjourney
Off he went to prepare some breakfast and get back on the couch! Jake didn’t confront me but pushed everything into one corner so he could enter and work. As the days progressed, dirty dishes, random socks, and leftover food piled up in my husband’s office, causing him to freak out.
“I can’t work like THIS!!!” he shouted for the whole house to hear. I walked in with a sweet smile. “It’s only one room to clean, Jake, so do it. Not a big deal, right?” My husband was FURIOUS, but he couldn’t argue with my logic. Alex, on the other hand, looked sheepish.
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“Dude, I’m sorry. I didn’t realize it was that bad,” he mumbled. “Maybe you should help out more,” I suggested and left them to deal with the mess. For a few days, things improved. Jake and Alex tried to keep the house cleaner, but their efforts were half-hearted at best.
The mess crept back, and I felt my frustration rising again. One Friday evening, I couldn’t take it anymore and confronted Jake. We got into a huge fight where he accused me of being a party pooper. Alex even tried mediating, but since he was the main cause of our stress, I told him to stay out of it.
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My husband tried defending his friend but that made me angrier. I decided I’d had ENOUGH! I packed a bag and called my best friend, Lisa. “Can I crash at your place for the weekend?” I asked. “Of course, hon. What’s going on?” she replied.
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I explained the situation, and she welcomed me with open arms. That weekend, I enjoyed the calm and cleanliness of Lisa’s apartment. I didn’t have to pick up after anyone, and it was a much-needed break.
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On Monday morning, my phone buzzed with a call from Jake. “Please come home,” he begged, all desperate and ashamed. “The house is a disaster, and I can’t find anything I need. Alex is impossible to live with!” This man had a nerve calling me after going silent the whole weekend.
But I still felt a pang of sympathy, yet I stayed firm. “I’ll come back when the house is clean, and Alex is gone.” Jake sighed. “Okay, okay. We’ll clean it up immediately. Just please come home today, my love?”
A man talking on the phone in a dirty home office | Source: Midjourney
“I’ll think about it,” I replied, not wanting to commit to anything and make him think he’d won. To my surprise, within minutes he sent me a video of them tidying up the house. I chose not to reply to the message but after discussing the matter with Lisa, I decided to go back home.
Two men cleaning a filthy house | Source: Midjourney
I returned later that day to find the house SPOTLESS! Jake and Alex had scrubbed every inch, and my husband’s friend had packed his bags. “Thanks for the hospitality,” he said sheepishly. “I’ll find somewhere else to stay until the renovations are done.”
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As Alex left, Jake pulled me into a hug. “I’m sorry, babe. I didn’t realize how much work it was. I should have listened to you.” I softened, seeing the genuine regret in his eyes. “It’s okay. I just need us to be a team, not you and Alex against me.”
From that day on, things improved. Jake made an effort to keep the house clean and helped out more. Our home became a place of peace again, and our relationship grew stronger.
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This is a photo of the extra bedroom after my husband’s best friend stayed with us for a few months. I cannot describe the smell to you, but believe me, it is blissful! Now the torment of having Alex over is just a memory of a lesson learned.
Jake smiled, wrapping his arm around me. “And one we won’t forget.”
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Life returned to normal, but the experience brought us closer. We learned the importance of communication and respecting each other’s space. And I knew that no matter what challenges came our way, we could face them together.
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Inside Tom Selleck’s ‘retreat’ home, where he has been living a private life since 1988 with his family
Tom Selleck is probably one of Hollywood’s most beloved actors. He has taken on a number of roles throughout the years and been well-liked by many Americans.
The actor lives a full life, residing in his permanent home for the most part of it.
Continue reading to learn more about Tom Selleck.
Tom Selleck has lived the ranch lifestyle in California for almost thirty years. Living on a ranch, according to him and his spouse, keeps him relatively calm.
The actor, who was born in Detroit in January 1945, began his career in entertainment in the 1960s when he began to appear in small roles on television and in films. It wasn’t until Magnum, PI debuted that the actor actually became well-known and wealthy.
For eight years, Selleck played detective Thomas Magnum, located in Hawaii. For the role, he even received a Primetime Emmy for outstanding lead actor.
Subsequently, the actor starred in popular TV shows like The Closer and Friends. In addition, he stars in “Blue Bloods.” Alongside Donnie Wahlberg and Bridget Moynahan, he co-stars in the show. The show has 13 seasons under its belt and is incredibly popular with viewers.
Selleck has achieved a great deal of fame, yet his career could have achieved even greater success. On the other hand, the actor values balance in his life and gives equal weight to his personal and professional relationships. For this reason, the actor moved out of Magnum, PI in 1987.
The actor had no idea how much fame the series had brought him. Although he took pleasure in his profession, he wasn’t always happy with the attention he received. “I knew intellectually what it would mean in terms of being a public person, but there’s no way to understand it until you’ve lived it,” he once stated.
The actor claimed that he left Magnum, PI in search of a more fulfilling existence since he was “from it.” When he quit the show in 1987, he married Jillie Joan Mack, his second wife. He talked about how his second wife could “light up a room” and had a “effervescent quality.”
Mack was a former dancer turned actress from England. A year after their marriage, the couple purchased a ranch in Ventura, California. The ranch was originally owned by Dean Martin. There are reportedly more than 1,500 native trees on the property.
After ten years of filming Blue Bloods in New York, Selleck leaves the ranch, leaving his wife Mack in charge. Despite giving up her job, one of the couple’s acquaintances saw that she was still quite happy because she spent most of her time on the ranch with her animals, who gave her immense delight.
Selleck and Mack love the ranch. Before he bought the property, Selleck decided he wanted to make amends and get some privacy back. The actor hardly finished any work during the year, which worried people about his career. But he made it clear that the primary cause was that he was uninterested in the tasks that were being assigned to him.
As press reports said that the actor’s career was all but ended, the actor took advantage of the peace and quiet to reinvent himself. “I quit Magnum to have a family,” he declared. Although getting off the train took a while, this property has really aided in my efforts to maintain equilibrium.
Hannah, Mack and Selleck’s daughter, was born in 1988. The couple has been married for almost thirty years. They believed that raising their daughter on the ranch would be enjoyable as well.
To sustain his personal life, the actor prioritized his marriage. He admitted that spending some time away from Hollywood to focus on his family has improved his marriage.
Even while living in a laid-back manner at the ranch has enhanced his personal life, the couple finds it difficult to maintain. All of the maintenance on the property is done by Selleck alone, including plant pruning and road repairs.
This California drought hurt his avocado plants. In 2007, the actor acknowledged that selling avocados had proven to be quite profitable for him, but only a few years before, he had acknowledged that it was getting harder for him to make a living from his avocados.
Selleck is accused by the Calleguas Municipal Water District of stealing truckloads of water. It was said that he would use a large truck similar to a water tender to drive to the hydrant and deliver the water back to his house. There were twelve documented journeys in around two years. Because it was uncertain whether any more visits were made that were overlooked, it was also unclear how much water was taken.
Two cease-and-desist notices from the authorities in late 2013 are said to have been disregarded by the performers, who kept taking water.
The actor was made to pay $21,000 to cover the cost of the private investigation that was done against him in addition to additional money to cover the cost of damages. He was also prohibited from using the Calleguas Municipal Water District for personal purposes any longer.
The actor gave off the impression that he was content with his life and California ranches. We are ecstatic that the performer now has a space to “retreat” and be authentic.
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