My husband and I bought our granddaughter a wedding gift from her registry. She reached out and accused us of being cheap after getting the wedding present. Now, she is upset and threatens to cut us off because we didn’t give her the cash gift that we presented to each of our grandkids a day before their wedding.
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I’m in my 70s, a proud grandmother to five amazing grandkids: three women and two men. I adore my grandkids and often show up for them emotionally and financially. Whenever they have celebrations or hard times, they know that they can count on me.
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The youngest of grandkids, Eloise, got married last October. My husband, who is also in his 70s, and I have a tradition for our grandkids. We buy a small gift from the wedding registry, usually the cheapest item, and then, the day before the wedding, we give them a check for $40,000.
We hope they’ll use it for a house, but it’s ultimately their choice. We also ask them to keep it a secret, considering our large family. Until now, everyone has respected this request.
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This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
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I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
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In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
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I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
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Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
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We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
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I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
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Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
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She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
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Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
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For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
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The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
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The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
My Twin Sister Deleted Our Photos and Disappeared — When I Finally Found Her, She Pretended Not to Know Me
Miley’s life turned upside down when her twin sister, Sara, erased all their photos from social media and disappeared without a trace. When Miley finally found her months later, Sara’s reaction was even more chilling: she pretended not to know her.
I’ll never forget the day when I found out that every photo of Sara and me had vanished from social media. Just… gone. Like we’d never existed.
My heart was pounding so hard, and I almost felt like throwing up.
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Let me back up a bit. I’m Miley, just a regular 24-year-old girl trying to do her best in life. Everything was going well up until a few months ago.
It all started after I had finally landed a job that could jumpstart my career. I was sharing a tiny apartment with my twin sister, Sara.
We’d been through thick and thin together, from losing our mom in a car accident when we were five to navigating the foster care system.
Those early days after Mom died are a blur.
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I remember holding Sara’s hand as we walked into our new foster home. We were so terrified.
“It’ll be okay, Miley,” Sara whispered. “I’ve got you.”
That was Sara. Always the brave one, always looking out for me. She’d always step in whenever kids at school would tease me about my secondhand clothes or my quiet nature.
“Back off!” she’d scream. “Nobody messes with my sister!”
We were the same age, but Sara had taken up the role of the protective elder sister who was always there to keep me safe.
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I don’t know how I would have dealt with the bullies if it wasn’t for her.
Growing up, Sara and I were inseparable. We shared everything from clothes to dreams. We even went to the same college together.
After graduation, I landed a job at a marketing firm, while Sara was still searching for her big break.
“Don’t worry about me,” she’d say, waving off my concerns. “You focus on killing it at work. I’ll figure something out.”
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“I’m here for you, Sara,” I’d tell her. “And I always will be. We’ll figure this out together, okay?”
It was a few months after graduating when we rented this small, cozy apartment.
We’ve made so many memories there, and it felt so good to live with my twin sister. After all, she was the only family I had.
But a few months ago, things started to change.
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Sara became… different. Secretive. She’d disappear for hours without explanation, or stay glued to her phone at home.
One night, we were sitting in the living room when I decided to confront her. I couldn’t take it anymore.
“Sara, what’s going on? Are you seeing someone?”
She glanced up from her phone, looking annoyed. “What? No. Why would you think that?”
“You’re always on your phone, sneaking off… I’m worried about you.”
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She rolled her eyes. “Miley, I love you, but you need to chill. I’m fine. Just… doing some research for job stuff.”
I wanted to believe her, but something felt off.
However, since I was swamped with work and wanted to prove myself at my new job, I decided not to worry about it.
Big mistake.
A few weeks later, I was at work when I noticed Sara had erased our online history. All our photos had disappeared from social media, and she had blocked me from every platform.
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I raced home from work that day, praying I was overreacting. But my worst fears came alive when I burst into our apartment.
Sara was gone.
Her closet was empty and she had taken everything that belonged to her. Books, laptop… even the stupid stuffed penguin she’d had since we were kids.
That was the worst day of my life.
I had no idea what to do. I couldn’t believe that my sister left me without saying goodbye. Without telling me why she couldn’t live with me anymore.
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I spent the next few weeks looking for her. I went to the police station, asked my friends for help, posted online… I did everything I could to find her.
“I’m sorry, miss,” the officer said for what felt like the hundredth time. “Your sister is an adult. If she chose to leave, there’s not much we can do.”
But I couldn’t give up. Sara was more than my sister. She was my other half. My best friend. The only real family I had left.
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Months went by and there was no trace of her.
At that point, I kept myself distracted with work during the day, but the nights were horrible. I cried myself to sleep in our half-empty apartment.
I was at my lowest point.
Then, one day, while I was out doing some shopping to distract myself, I saw her.
Sara. My sister.
She was walking arm-in-arm with an older man, laughing like she didn’t have a care in the world.
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My heart skipped a beat.
“Sara!” I cried. “Oh my god, where have you been? Why did you leave?”
But the look she gave me… it was like I was a total stranger. Cold. Distant.
“Who are you?” she asked, her voice eerily calm. “I don’t know you.”
“What? Sara, it’s me. It’s Miley. Your sister. Your twin.”
Sara’s face remained blank. “I’m sorry, but I think you have me confused with someone else. Please leave us alone.”
The older man she was with looked concerned.
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“Is everything alright?” he asked, glancing between us.
I turned to him. “Please, you have to help me. This is my sister, Sara. We grew up together. She disappeared months ago, and I’ve been looking everywhere for her.”
“Is this true?” he asked Sara.
She sighed. “Fine. Yes, it’s true. This is Miley, my twin sister.”
The man’s eyes widened.
“Twin sister? But that would mean…” He extended his hand to me. “I’m Kevin. I’m… well, I guess I’m your father.”
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I stared at him as my mind struggled to process this bombshell. “Our… father? But we never knew our dad. Mom always said…”
“Maybe we should sit down,” Kevin suggested gently. “I think we all have a lot to talk about.”
I followed them to a nearby café. Sara finally met my eyes when we settled into a booth.
“I’m sorry, Miley,” she said softly. “I didn’t mean for it to happen like this.”
“What happened?” I asked. “Why did you leave? Why didn’t you tell me?”
She took a deep breath.
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“Remember when I was being all secretive with my phone? I… I took one of those DNA tests. You know, the ones that tell you about your ancestry?”
I nodded, still confused.
“Well, it matched me with Kevin here,” she continued. “He’s our biological father.”
“I had no idea,” Kevin began explaining. “I took the test on a whim. All my golf buddies were doing it. And I was so shocked when Sara contacted me… I dated your mother briefly. Years ago. But she never told me she was pregnant.”
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“But why keep it a secret?” I asked Sara. “Why disappear?”
Sara’s eyes filled with tears. “I… I wanted something that was just mine, for once. We’ve shared everything our whole lives, Miley. Our clothes, our friends, our tiny apartment. When I found out about Kevin, I just… I wanted to explore this connection on my own. Just for a little while.”
“And you erased me from your life?” I whispered.
“I know it was wrong,” Sara said, reaching for my hand.
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“I got carried away. I convinced myself that you’d be fine without me, that you had your new job and your life… I’m so sorry, Miley.”
Kevin cleared his throat.
“I take full responsibility too,” he said. “When Sara told me about you, I should have insisted we contact you right away. I was just so excited to get to know my daughter… I didn’t think about how it might affect you.”
At that point, all I needed was some time to process everything.
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What was supposed to be a trip to the mall had suddenly turned into an unexpected family reunion. I couldn’t believe I was sitting with my long-lost father and my twin sister who I thought was gone forever.
“I need some air,” I mumbled as I stood up. “I’ll be back”
I quickly left the café and took a deep breath.
A few seconds later, I felt a hand on my shoulder.
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It was Sara.
“Miley,” she said softly. “I know I messed up. Big time. But you’re my sister and nothing will change that. Can you forgive me? Please?”
I looked at her for a few seconds and realized she was still the person who’d always protected me. She was my Sara, and I had to forgive her.
“On one condition,” I smiled. “No more secrets. Okay?”
“Deal,” she nodded and pulled me into a hug.
As we held each other tight, I realized our story wasn’t over.
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It was just beginning… with a new chapter, a new family member, and a bond that couldn’t be broken.
At that point, we had a lot to figure out, but I knew we’d do it together. Just like we always had.
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