This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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Man Kept Hearing Strange Noises Under Driveway, Look What He Found Inside.
Simon Marks, a 37-year-old man, made an interesting discovery. Stated differently, he’s been living in the same house for a long, but he just recently came to terms with the fact that he didn’t know what was hidden in the house he’d bought a few years earlier.
One day, while trying to park his car, he came upon what he believed to be a flowerbed. The wheels on his car got stuck, and he heard strange cracking noises coming from the driveway.
“Well, this day couldn’t get any worse,” he thought to himself.
When Marks knelt down to look into the issue more thoroughly, he saw that the driver had given way because the stones in the driveway had broken. An astounding discovery was made audibly by the sound of the pavers shattering.
Once all the dirt had been removed, he discovered a piece of metal underneath. Uncertain of what might be beneath the driveway, Marks grabbed onto the metal piece and tried unsuccessfully to pull it out. Then he turned back to investigate the mysterious object further.
He didn’t know what to do next, so he called his father for help. When they worked together, they were able to clear away a significant amount of dense muck, eventually exposing an aperture. Curious to explore where the rusty, rusting ladder would lead them, the two men climbed down.
“My dad saw it and knew right away that it was an air raid shelter,” Marks remembered.”We found that there are a lot in this area after browsing on Google.”
It appeared that the shelter they discovered in Marks’ garden was built during World War II.
As per Marks, “the previous owner had to have been aware of its existence and had to have filled it in during the construction of the house and garden.”
These shelters were designed to protect civilians from bombing during the conflict. They are said to have been invented by a man named Sir John Anderson.
Bricks have been used to close off a wall. We don’t know, but I’m 99 percent positive that we won’t find any more chambers. According to Marks, they might have bricked up one of the walls to create way for the foundations when the house was built.”If that’s the case, we’ll just have to leave it,” he said.
His discovery was caught on tape, and his story quickly spread throughout the world.
Marks and his father plan to renovate the shelter because they view it as an important historical landmark. They argue that although if that period of history is behind us, it shouldn’t be disregarded because it offers us a window into earlier eras.
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