Smaller houses and apartments don’t stop many Japanese couples from sleeping in different beds or even rooms. This is not some kind of an intimate issue or problem with the relationship, but something that they believe is good for them.
We at Bright Side found out why married couples in Japan choose to sleep separately, and we really like their reasons.
They have different sleep schedules.
The first thing that makes Japanese couples decide to go to bed separately is different work schedules. Waking up your significant other just because you got home late from work or have to leave early won’t result in good quality rest for them. This is why spending the night in a different room makes sense. This will give them both an undisturbed and healthier sleep.
Babies sleep with their mothers.
Japanese mothers sleep with their children and this is considered very important, so the father needs to decide if he wants to share the same bed or go to a different room. Even science has proven that co-sleeping can help parents and children get a more restful sleep. It helps the child to maintain a stable temperature and heart rate (which is really critical in infancy) and at the same time, it decreases the chance of sudden infant death syndrome. Also, this contributes to the child having better self-esteem, becoming independent faster, and doing great in school.
For them, sleeping separately means peace.
While many couples who start to sleep alone think that divorce is at their door, the Japanese see it differently. They value their sleep a lot and they don’t want to be disturbed while sleeping. This means that they don’t need and don’t like to put up with snoring, restless sleep, kicking, etc. Even though some don’t have the opportunity to sleep in different rooms, they still wish they could get their beauty sleep.
Couples have a history of sleeping separately.
Futons are filled with cotton, which provides support and comfort. In the past, only single sized ones were used as beds. So, even if you wanted to cuddle up with your loved one, you would have ended up between the sheets, on the cold floor, and you wouldn’t feel comfortable. Today there are families that still use this type of bedding, especially because it doesn’t take up a lot of space and it is easy to store.
Do you sleep separately from your partner? Do you think this type of practice might be even better for your relationship?
A Wedding Day Unveiled: Amber’s Tale of Heartbreak and Revelation
Amber had always been the type of girl who dreamed of her perfect wedding day. Ever since she was young, she meticulously planned each detail in her mind. From the enchanting venue to the stunning cake, Amber’s imagination crafted her ideal ceremony.
“When Tim proposed, I was overjoyed. I had everything planned to perfection,” Amber shared with a smile during a cozy evening with Tim.
“Our wedding will be unforgettable,” Amber confided in Tim as they lay in bed, basking in their shared future.
“I have no doubt about that, Amber,” Tim responded with an affectionate grin.
Eager to share her joy, Amber called her friends from across the country, asking them to stand with her as bridesmaids. These were the friends who had been with her through thick and thin, starting from their college days.
Together, they poured over every detail, trusting and relying on each other completely—until a shocking revelation threatened everything.
On what was supposed to be the happiest day of her life, standing at the altar with Tim, Amber’s world began to unravel.
“If anyone objects to this marriage, speak now or forever hold your peace,” the officiant announced, echoing through the venue.
To Amber’s horror, three of her bridesmaids suddenly proclaimed, “We object!”
The room filled with gasps and murmurs of confusion.
Amber’s eyes darted to her fourth bridesmaid, Sara, who was visibly upset by the outburst.
“Are you guys crazy?” Sara exclaimed in disbelief.
“Sara,” Audrey, the maid of honor, interjected, “we discussed this. You know what’s happening!”
“Look at the cake!” Mel shouted, pointing towards the beautifully decorated wedding cake that Amber had painstakingly chosen.
Sara’s gaze shifted to the cake, and her face drained of color, realizing the gravity of what it represented.
A week prior to this day, Amber’s bridesmaids had asked her to meet at a local coffee shop. Anticipating a discussion about a possible bachelorette party, Amber was utterly unprepared for what they revealed instead.
“Amber,” Audrey began with a solemn tone, “there’s something you need to know.”
As they sipped coffee and shared slices of cake, Audrey dropped the bombshell.
“We saw Ellie with Tim,” she confessed. “They were not just walking together; they were holding hands, kissing.”
Amber felt the air leave her lungs, disbelief and betrayal sinking in.
“What are you talking about?” Amber gasped, the shock rendering her speechless.
Mel, hands trembling, handed her phone to Amber. The screen displayed a photo that shattered her world: Ellie, her friend and bridesmaid, locked in an intimate embrace with Tim.
That night, after Tim fell asleep, Amber confirmed her worst fears. She found undeniable proof of their affair—photos, messages, and videos on Tim’s phone, revealing a deep and intimate connection.
Fueled by a mix of rage and heartbreak, Amber devised a plan not just for revenge, but for revelation.
“I still wanted to wear my wedding dress,” Amber admitted, “but I knew I wouldn’t be marrying Tim at the end of it.”
Her scheme was wickedly simple: she ordered custom cake toppers that unmistakably resembled Tim and Ellie. Every detail was there—Ellie’s signature red lipstick, her prominent tattoo, and even her beloved dog, Bjorn.
On the day of the wedding, as guests noticed the striking resemblance of the cake toppers to Tim and Ellie, whispers turned into loud inquiries.
“Is that Ellie and Tim on the cake?” Tim’s brother pointed out, stunned.
“How could they?” another guest murmured, disbelief and disappointment mingling in the air.
Ellie, pale and shaken, attempted to speak. “Amber, I can explain everything,” she stammered, but it was too late.
Tim, desperate, grasped Amber’s hand. “This isn’t what you think,” he pleaded, his eyes searching hers for forgiveness.
But the damage was irreversible. The wedding, once a dream of love and unity, had morphed into a public unmasking of betrayal.
“There’s nothing to explain, Ellie,” Amber responded, her voice a blend of ice and tremor. “Everyone can see who you truly are now.”
As murmurs filled the room, Amber turned to her loyal bridesmaids with gratitude. “Thank you,” she whispered, her voice softening with genuine appreciation.
Together, they walked out, leaving behind a scene of chaos and shattered illusions. It wasn’t the fairy-tale ending Amber had envisioned, but it was a day of hard truths and raw honesty.
Later, Amber and her bridesmaids retreated to the hotel suite originally booked for her honeymoon. During that week, she had canceled the honeymoon flights and planned a solo trip for reflection and healing.
Now, sitting with a coffee on the balcony, Amber contemplated her next steps. Her life with Tim was deeply intertwined, and untangling it would be her next challenge.
“I may have lost a fiancé and a friend,” Amber reflected, “but I’ve gained an even deeper bond with the friends who truly have my back.”
What would you have done in Amber’s shoes?
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