According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
He thrived on the fringes of society, scavenging for meals in dumpsters, but somehow he rose to fame as a legendary actor and became a father to four children
Michael J. Fox has faced significant challenges in recent years, particularly due to his long-standing battle with Parkinson’s disease. This struggle has not become easier with time, but his story remains one of remarkable resilience.
Born on June 9, 1961, in Edmonton, Canada, Michael’s childhood was marked by frequent relocations due to his father’s service in the Canadian Armed Forces. His mother worked as a payroll clerk, providing stability in their blue-collar home. Eventually, the family settled in Burnaby, British Columbia, where Michael discovered his love for acting during junior high. He joined the drama division at school and quickly showcased his talent, landing a role in the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation series Leo & Me, thanks to encouragement from his theater teacher.
Determined to pursue acting, Fox moved to Los Angeles at 17, dropping out of high school. With support from his family, especially his father, who drove him to California, Michael was committed to making his dreams a reality. He later reflected on his decision, acknowledging that he came from humble beginnings: “I was living on the margins… dumpster diving for food”, he recalled in a 2023 interview.
His breakthrough came with the role of Alex P. Keaton in the hit sitcom Family Ties, followed by his iconic portrayal of Marty McFly in Back to the Future. Interestingly, Michael’s mother initially opposed his involvement in Back to the Future, worried about his demanding schedule. Yet, he went on to succeed, even if it meant enduring exhaustion.
During his time on Family Ties, he met Tracy Pollan, who played his love interest on the show. Although they didn’t start dating immediately, they eventually fell in love and married in 1988, welcoming four children together: Sam, Schuyler, Aquinnah, and Esmé.
Michael originally didn’t have the “J” in his name. When he learned there was another actor named Michael Fox in the Screen Actors Guild, he added the initial as a tribute to his favorite actor, Michael J. Pollard.
After a successful career, Michael retired from acting in 2020, stating that his struggle with speech made it difficult to perform. Following his diagnosis of Parkinson’s disease, he initially turned to alcohol but eventually sought help and publicly disclosed his condition in 1998. Since then, he has become an advocate for Parkinson’s research, founding the Michael J. Fox Foundation, which has raised over $750 million for the cause.
Michael J. Fox’s life is a testament to perseverance. Despite the obstacles he faced, he has become a beloved figure in Hollywood and an inspiration to many. His journey exemplifies the power of determination and passion, reminding us all of what can be achieved against the odds. Let’s celebrate not only his remarkable talents but also the inspiring story he continues to share with the world.
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